(Closed) Feeling a little discouraged about our budget… or lack thereof.

posted 6 years ago in Money
  • poll: Do you ever feel really discouraged about the budget for your wedding?
    Yeah, all the time. : (43 votes)
    57 %
    Yes, but it ended up being amazing despite my worrying! : (11 votes)
    15 %
    No, not really. : (21 votes)
    28 %
  • Post # 3
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    148 posts
    Blushing bee

    I’m really sorry you’re feeling down. It’s always disheartening when you feel like your dreams won’t come to fruition.

    But here’s my two cents. When you look back on your wedding, will you have fond memories of the great limo or awesome cake? That’s not really a rhetorical question (some people really wouldn’t have it any other way), but in nearly every single post I’ve seen about people’s weddings, the most fond memories come from the friends, the family, and the overall feel of the wedding. It sounds like you want a classy wedding. You can still pull that off without busting the bank. Yeah, it’ll be difficult and you’ll probably have to skip the 40 foot limo (maybe go with a 20 foot one), but it’s possible to have elegance without a huge budget. Several of my friends got married right out of college (without much money at all), but they had some of the most beautiful weddings I’ve seen by simply being creative in their planning. I’m sure Pinterest was a vital asset to their planning :-P.

    I really hope that this time in your life can be marked by happiness and wonderful memories, and I hope that you can have the wedding of your dreams when the time comes.

    Post # 4
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    128 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Just making ends meet stinks.  All day everyday i catch myself thinking things like, i’m lucky i even have a job when others dont, and once i graduate i’m sure things will change.  But when i’m alone i sulk about how my husband has his degree and makes less that 23k a year and how the field i’m going into, teaching, is low paying as well and this scrimp and save lifestyle may never change, especially when we add kids into the mix! So i know where you’re comming from.  It was hard to plan a wedding on very little money.  It was never overly fun.  And i did think about the things i could have had, or how easy it would be to just hire someone to do it all for me if i could have.  But yeah, on the day of, most of that fades to the back of your mind.  I have no real advice except feelfree to feel discouraged now and again.  Feeling like wanting more is good.  It keeps you moving forward and making more happen for you, just try not to get weighed down by it.  Best wishes, and good luck! 

    Post # 5
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    8042 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

    @MonPetite:  Aw, I feel for you, but I do think you have lots to be grateful for and you can see that in a lot of ways you’re very lucky.

    I don’t think you should have to give up your dreams, though. Find something you’re passionate about and turn it into money. That’s what I am trying to do. I have a great job but I don’t love it. I’m by no means rich, but money isn’t everything when you dread going to work every day.

    You could always do a blowout vows renewal for an anniversary when you’re in a better financial position.

    I don’t think you should feel bad for wanting what you’ve always dreamed of. And never give up 🙂

    Post # 6
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    2693 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    It does suck having to make so many sacrifices on a day you’ve dreamed about for such a long time.  I know, I am there.  BUT the big picture is at least you found your soulmate and get to marry him.  I know the nice big fancy wedding would be nice, but you have some time and things could change…. you will have a nic e wedding.  Maybe not how you imagined, but a nice wedding just the same.  And who knows, maybe you’ll love it even more.

    Post # 8
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    240 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

     I’ve been to weddings where the event cost over 75 grand, and i’ve been to weddings where the guest list was small and the budget miniscule.

    Guess what?  I had more fun at the lower budget wedding (complete with two stepping and country music).  The thing i’ve learned is that weddings are not about the glitz and the glam but the people you invite and the personal touches you make to make your guests feel welcome. 

    Can’t have a dessert buffet?  No problem!  Have a candy bar, with nice glass containers that  you bought at a thrift store!  Can’t have an open bar?  Have a red and white wine handy at each table for free that you’ve corked on your own to save cash and all hard liquor at the bar given out via cash bar.    

    While having a budget is not fun, fighting over debt and bills post-wedding is FAR worse.  You have the man of your dreams, so stay positive, and keep your wedding within your means! 

    Post # 9
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    143 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    A wedding is what you make of it.What matter the most is that you found someone who will spend the rest of your life loving you.At the end of the day thats all that really matters.i have a really small budget also ,so a year in advance i started ordering things little by little and putting deposits here and there where we can.when you think realistically ,all we are doing is having a party to show people we got married and the next day its over.so no matter if your wedding cost $500 or 50,000 in the end the two of you loving each other is all that matters

    Post # 10
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    8464 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @MonPetite:  Gratz on finding your venue!  I highly recommend doing as many things DIY as you can.  My FI and I saved a ton by printing all of our wedding stationary (pocketfold invites, layered programs, favor labels, etc).  Feel free to PM me if you want help or pics.

    Post # 11
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    276 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I totally get how you’re feeling.  I have been struggling financially for years despite working my behind off, scrimping on everything, and living as bare bones as I possibly could.  It is very disheartening to have to wrestle with yourself about whether you can afford a $12 clearance rack tee shirt because you are scraping the bottom of the barrel.  I was really depressed about wedding planning for the first four months of our engagement because I was not making enough money to contribute anything, and it made me not even want to begin planning.  I was very fortunate to receive a promotion at work recently, so now I’m in better shape, but I definitely understand how hard it is to have to let go of those pretty dreams and face reality.  Undecided  Wishing you and your fiance the best, hopefully he will get an awesome new job and something will come through for you guys!

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