(Closed) feeling a little down..

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
32 posts
  • Wedding: October 2013

Well I think you summed it all up in the last paragraph of your post. This is life, and life tosses cannonballs your way. 

You are going to have a wedding and you are going to look beautiful. He is going to be in awe when he sees you and you are going to stand up there infront of your friends and family and declare your love for one another.

Here’s the thing: Whoever doesn’t like what you’ve provided FOR THEM free of charge can kiss your gorgeously clad wedding gowned arse. LOL.

And as far as a hotel room with a hot tub…HELLS YEAH! Think of the fun you two are gonna have in that room. And think of the memories you’re going to have.

This is just the first of many, many storms you two are going to weather together. How you come of those storms depends on your attitude towards them. 

Girl you are going to be fine and your wedding is going to be fantastic! 

Fake flowers in a vase? Pffftt….it’s called crafty environmentalism! Those flowers can be reused and repurposed!  How awesome is that? And, if you have your heart really set on a wedding favor, those flowers are pretty inexpensive. Why not put a small tag on each of those flowers on your tables and let your guests take home one each to add into their home decor? 

Let me let you in on a little secret. Every wedding I’ve ever went to the favors were nice yes, but they eventually got lost, tossed or ended up in a box to GoodWill. People are going to be there for you guys, not for what they get in a little box.

So! Tonight grab your hunny, pop a movie in, grab some pizza and snuggle with your best friend. You’re wedding is going to be everything you ever wanted!

Hugs to you my friend!

Post # 5
32 posts
  • Wedding: October 2013

@BushelAndAPeck:  LOL We must be soul sistahs! LOL That’s exactely what I would have popped in!


Good luck sweetie on your fantastic wedding! Rock it out chick and dance until dawn with the love of your life!



Post # 6
8424 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

@BushelAndAPeck:  Take a deep breath…..its all gonna be OK!!

Trust me I doubt anyone will miss the favors or even notice the flowers. Most guest are looking at you and the groom, dancing, eating and drinking…….they are far to busy to even notice the details. I went to a wedding recently and there were no favors now that you mention it but I would have never even thought of it until now actually. Most people don’t even get close enough to the flowers to know if they are real or not so no worries! You will look back on this in a couple of months and laugh that you were even stressed over it!

Post # 7
870 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’m gonna be honest.  I DO NOT remember what favors there were at the last wedding I went to, and it was less than a year ago.  I vaguely remember the decor, but only because I was actively looking for ideas for my own wedding.  Things people are really going to remember:  You and Fiance and how you two look, the food (and cake), maybe the music, maybe the bridesmaids’ dresses if they’re into fashion.  So as long as the big things are covered, you should be fine.

More on the subject of decor.  We’re having floating candles in large wineglasses with colored water.  Super simple, inexpensive, and really pretty.  We’re getting the wineglasses from Dollar Tree and you can add food coloring to the water and it works just fine.  I don’t have any pictures of my actual centerpieces, but it’s similar to this, but with bigger glasses and in red.  You can’t tell, but the light throws the color from the water onto the surface it’s on.  If you can’t do flowers with the time crunch, what about something like that?


Post # 8
375 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

The decor and favors are the last things people care about. Half the weddings I’ve been to used fake flowers, and no one cared. Plus, when you look at your photos in 20 years, they’ll look real, and you might not even remember whether they were real or not. People don’t come to weddings to get tiny bags of candy! 

David Tutera throws huge, expensive weddings for people because his TV show pays him to… you don’t have a producer to satisfy, so don’t worry. The decor stuff on Pinterest is just what people click on out of boredom. They look at a photo for a second or two, and then click on something else. It’s no more important to live up to Pinterest than it would be to organize your tables according to Sudoku logic.

Take a deep breath and enjoy the rest of your engagement week!

Post # 9
1514 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@BushelAndAPeck:  Please try not to stress over the details so much.  (I know, I know … Easier said than done!)

First, step away from Pinterest.  Seriously.  Pinterest can be fun and even helpful at times, but it can also make you feel like your wedding won’t be “good enough” because you didn’t spring for the ultra super amazing deluxe decor package.  

Second, I’d skip the favors altogether.  I can’t remember one favor I’ve ever received as a guest at a wedding.  As a guest, I don’t care whether or not I get something to take home at the end of the night.  Based on many posts I’ve seen around here, most favors just get left behind or discarded shortly after anyway.  If you’re experiencing financial difficulty, cutting favors is a pretty easy way to save a few hundred dollars.

Third, no one will care about your decorations.  I feel that as a guest, I’d be much happier if I were spending time with great people, celebrating with the couple, and enjoying a nice meal.  I understand wanting things to look nice for pictures (I feel that way, at least), but there are plenty of inexpensive options for decorations.  Several years ago, I attended a friend’s wedding and they just had a simple round mirror with a few small candles and colorful glass pieces (like what you’d find in a craft store) on the tables.  It was simple, but it looked nice.

Finally, is the honeymoon suite really necessary?  I understand wanting something really special, but you could always plan to take a nice trip on a future anniversary and splurge for the best room possible when your finances are in better shape.  I still don’t even know what we’re doing for our wedding night … We may end up just coming back to our apartment.  I can’t really justify spending a lot of money on a fancy hotel room when we literally live less than 10 minutes away from our venue.  I know every situation is different, but opting for a less expensive option won’t ruin anything.  It’s your wedding night … It will be special no matter what!

I hope you’re able to enjoy the next few days.  Focus on how much fun you’ll have at your wedding and how happy you are to be marrying the man of your dreams!

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