Post # 1
My Maid/Matron of Honor and I picked the date for the party last week. It was pretty much the only date available so we can’t really budge on it. I went ahead and told my bridesmaids the date (I have 4 including MOH) and have had one say she can go and another say she can’t. I’m still waiting on my sister’s reply.
But I’m feeling a little sad because I’m not inviting that many people (I don’t have that many girlfriends) and was really counting on my bridesmaids being able to go. The only other people invited are a bit long distance or just have really booked up summers and I seriously doubt any out of the 4 of them will go.
If my sister can make it, it looks like there will just be four of us there, which kinda makes me a little disappointed. It also doesn’t help that I have only seen the bridesmaid that declined once since last summer when I asked her (she’s also long distance), and she also didn’t go to my bridal shower. I know the party isn’t what’s important, but some words of encouragement would be nice. I really want to enjoy the party no matter how many people are there.
How many people were at your bach parties?
Post # 3
If it makes you feel any better, I probably won’t have one at all… my Maid/Matron of Honor moved to Cali and my other “friends” are too busy for me lol. So to answer your question, it will be only me.
Post # 4
I went to a bachelorette party last year where there were only 4 of us (the bride, only 2 of her 6 bridesmaids and me) and we had a FABULOUS time. I didn’t blink an eye that we weren’t surrounded by a big group – I was thrilled to be able to spend more quality time with the bride. I know the bride was a little sad in the beginning that so few people came (4 of her bridesmaids didn’t show up) but I think she quickly forgot about that. We could get a table at a great restaurant (where we could never get in with a big group), a table at club and we all fit in one hotel room to top off the night.
Don’t sweat having a small group – I think you can still have a fun celebration!
Post # 4
well i am living away from home for my internship for one year, so i was going to forego a bachelorette party altogether. then my work friends were sweet and threw me one. so there were about 6 girls, plus 3 guys total (their significant others).
but none of those people included my BMs or anyone that was actually attending my wedding! but i was not bummed at all. i guess i saw the whole thing as a bonus as opposed to something lacking. i am sure no matter how bummed you are now, you will have a fantastic time. just focus on who will be there. actually i was bummed that a lot of people could not come to my wedding. but once i was there, i was totally happy with the turnout and everyone that WAS there!
EDIT: oh and 2 of my BMs were not able to come to my wedding.
Post # 5
Same here. I don’t have any girlfriends around since we just moved, my sisters are thousands of miles away. We are just going to do a fun weekend with the boys just before the wedding, go wine tasting or something like that, but nothing for me specifically.
Post # 6
I’m only planning on having 4 people plus myself. You’ll have a wonderful time!!
Post # 7
I know how you feel, my Maid/Matron of Honor planned a surprise day at the spa followed by a night out, none of my family came which was understandable since they’re out of state. My one cousin that did said several times it was expensive, one of my other friends didn’t come at all, one only came for the spa part and my 3 co-workers bailed. In the end it was a small group of 6 of us at the spa and only 5 for the drinking/partying part, but it was AMAZING! It doesn’t matter if there’s 2 of you or 10 of you as long as you have fun and the people you are the closest to are there. I’m sure yours will be just as great!
Post # 8
@cyndistar3: Well that kinda makes me feel better, but now I also feel bad for you! That’s kinda how I feel about a lot of my girlfriends… we just don’t have the time anymore. My sister has also not done a thing to help wedding plan. I totally understand that she has her own life to worry about and everything, but it still sometimes makes me sad that she has so little interest in it. But I do have 2 bridesmaids that have been absolutely wonderful throughout the planning, and I am really grateful for that!
@runawaybride2011: Great points!
You all are really making me feel better. I’m glad I posted this 🙂
Post # 9
@Oribel013690: Don’t feel bad for me lol… I am used to it 🙂 My sister did live here with me when I asked her to be my Maid/Matron of Honor but she hated Idaho so she moved back to California… so she can’t help much from there but she has been the most helpful outa all of my BMs….
Post # 10
I had two parties, the first was with just my 2 bridesmaids. And that was my favorite! They’re the girls that are closest to me and they’re all I needed to be there. I felt like it was just easier without all those people there.
Post # 11
I am sorry you are feeling down.
I know exactly how you feel. I don’t have many close friends (maybe 3, 2 which are pregnant). My maids are FI’s family. So I doubt that I will be having a bachelorette party.
Post # 12
@Oribel013690: I have 6 bridesmaids, and as of right now, it only seems like 3 of them are for sure on board. I find it hardest to check my ego at the door and accept that everyone doesn’t live in the same place, which means they have lives and careers and the like (call it bridezilla syndrome, if you will). That being said, I’m going through the same feeling of disappointment that it may not be big and extravagant. My Maid/Matron of Honor has been really sweet and has said “Look, even if it’s just you and me we will do it right!” Nothing like my bestie to step up. 🙂
Post # 13
If it makes you feel any better, I had 7 Bridesmaid or Best Man and only 3 of mine were able to go. My BFF’s wedding was 2 weeks before mine, and so we decided to combine our bachelorette parties. We just went to a Phillies game and she had double the girls there that I did b/c it was just a bad weekend for my girls. We still had an absolute blast, and you will too! It doesn’t matter how many girls are there, it matters WHO is there.
Post # 14
I think it’s better to focus on quality than quantity. I would much rather be surrounded by a few good friends than a bunch of acquaintances who are probably more excited about having an excuse to get wasted and slutty than celebrate with me.
Post # 15
I moved to NC from NY about 3 years ago and chose to not continue relationships with my friends from NY (I was in a very toxic circle of people) except for my MOH and haven’t developed many friendships here yet, just one or two so I won’t be having a bachelorette party. Honestly though, it makes me happy, I’d rather not be having a bachelorette party vs. having one with the toxic people that I used to call my friends. In your case, I’d rather have a small intimate bachelorette party with people who really care about you instead a bunch of random girls.