Post # 1
Last night I had a hard time falling asleep, instead of six hours I could only stomach three. My boyfriend and I, we talked every day until this week. For two days I went without any text message or anything, so last night I finally decided to text him to see what was up.
He was online playing his video game, and I got annoyed and told him well maybe we’ll do our weekend movie date, and maybe we won’t. We started to text back and forth and I got to the point of where it was like okay, I need to stop, apologize and keep him from getting angry then I get this text (after I had said I was being a brat)
“I don’t think you are. I have been feeling like this all week and I don’t know why.”
I pressed a little further to understand what he was saying and he came back with,
“Like I should be texting talking or whispering you more this week”
Well, after that I decided maybe it’s time to just get him on the phone, called him up and asked if what we had discussed on Friday had scared him. He said no, that the game he loves had a new patch release, his final week of school (I had no idea) and he was lacking sleep. Said that he missed me, and that he didn’t know why he wasn’t talking to me and seemingly ignoring me, but that he loved me and missed me and wished he had money to get me out there.We hung up after about half an hour, he said he wanted to talk about anything and everything on Friday because he’d have no interruptions (his gaming buddy kept yaking in the backround).
Sooo…I don’t know what to think. I cried a good bit last night because, to me it feels like I’m about to get my heart broken. Maybe I’m reading too much into it, or maybe not. I’ve had my heart broken before after engagement talks. The ex’s before had always been the ones who would ask, then turn around and say they’re in love with someone else and leave me.
Sorry if this kind of confusing, but . . . three hours of sleep and emotional wreck…
Post # 3
I think lack of sleep may be making you overthink.
Best to get a good nights sleep and then re-evaluate the next day with a clear head.
To me this just seems like a case of breakdown of communication, and distance making everthing that much harder.
Hugs, and hope things look brighter.
Post # 4
@MrsOliveBird: It was. We both are not sleeping well. Neither one of us has been able to sleep as well as we did the week were together. It’s just so stressful some days to be this far apart. Plus, I didn’t even think about it but he needs breathing room, what with school wrapping up, and all. Sigh. Just so much pain in the past that my mind jumped the gun too quickly. Thanks for your reply though =)
Post # 5
@Silentlove: Try to go work out or do soemthing active in the early evening tonight if you can – wear out your body so it’ll help your mind rest. When I’ve got a lot on my mind it’s one thing that really helps, and being physically exhausted leads to much better sleep than being stress-exhausted. And drink some chamomille tea before bed,, or wamr milk. Things might look better with a good night’s sleep – I get really irritable and emotional when I’m lacking in the sleep department, and things that are nothing blow up in my mind to be everything, and I sleep even less.
I hope things go well when you’re able to talk.
Post # 6
@Isilme: Thanks for the tip. I am a bit restless since I injured my ankle and am sick, so no gym for me. Going to try it out tomorrow. But the tea bit, I’ll have to go pick up some. Any particulair brand you recommend?
Post # 7
Hunny, I think because of the lack of sleep issues you’re overanalyzing the situation because I certainly do that also when I don’t have sufficient amount of rest!!!!! take it With my experience with school–I’m wrapping up my last semester before graduating this summer–busy busy busy with with finals and research papers up the wazoo! my fiance is working 10 hr shifts 6 days a week so we get little time to see each other-mostly in passing or in a text because of our mixed up schedule.
Things will dewindle once the semester is over with for you guys. I’m sure it’s difficult on him that he can’t see you as much as he would like, too. Try to focus on something that you’re truly passionate about to ease your mind 🙂 And perhaps if you don’t hear from him when you want him to, send him an “I love you” or “I miss you” text message–just to let him know you’re thinking about him. 🙂
Post # 8
This is normal. Me and my guy go through this pretty often, but we don’t look at it so much as a negative. It gives us space to go and live so we actually have things to talk about, because sometimes we’ll talk so much that there’s really nothing more to say. (Although when we’re physically together, we can’t shut up! lol)
It’s not that we don’t miss or love each other…it’s just something that inevitably happens when you’re in a LDR for an extended time. Everything will be alright! <3
Post # 9
You are overanalyzing. You guys are just having a rough week. Get some rest, drink some tea, and try to relax 🙂
Post # 10
I understand :-(. Last summer, I would analyze everything and make myself worry. I have the uncanny gift to be able to take a situation and completely blow it out of proportion.
It’s natural to think those thoughts–you don’t want to get hurt, so you may think that if you come to the conclusion by yourself, you’ll save yourself some heartache (at least, that’s how I roll on this one). When I start to feel those thoughts creep in, I have to take a step into his shoes. Before my FI proposed last summer, he had some huge qualifying exams to get into the next stage of his program. Besides having to re-take his quals, he was stressed out with work. I would get so upset at myself that I couldn’t fix his problems for him, and then I would start feeling those doubts creep in.
Sometimes, I have to remind myself what I do when I’m going through a lot. I like to zone out in something mindless, I don’t feel like talking to anybody. I have gone through those feelings where I didn’t want to talk to my FI. It wasn’t anything against him, it was just a stressful time and I didn’t feel like talking to anybody! I remind myself that those feelings don’t change how I feel about FI, it’s just a coping mechanism.
Good luck getting through the next few days :-(. Do whatever you can to keep yourself busy and distracted.
Get some good rest tonight and try to stay busy until Friday evening.