Post # 1
I did it: I scheduled a bridal store appointment without my mom. I just need to look at the dresses without her; she’s more about finding a “pretty dress” than an “Abby dress”.
I feel a little guilty and a little liberated.
Post # 3
I felt guilty making any appointments without my mom or FMIL. I can’t work around their schedule all the time. It was getting too difficult and annoying for our vendors. When I was looking for a dress, I was only interested in one dress; a dress with very little beads. My mom kept pointing out dresses with TONS of beads. I got frustrated but I dealt with it. I did find THE dress with my mom. I went to look for a second dress and that time, I brought my FI with me.
Post # 4
Good for you, girl. You have to be able to know what YOU like before you get other people’s opinions in your head.
I have found all of my prom dresses AND my wedding dress by myself. After I found ‘the one’; then I brought my friends/mom
Post # 5
dont feel bad, I am not even inviting my mom… have fun without all the pressure.
Post # 6
If you are old enough to get married, you are old enough to decide for yourself whether your mother is more of a help or a hindrance.
Post # 7
“If you are old enough to get married, you are old enough to decide for yourself whether your mother is more of a help or a hindrance.”
What’s that supposed to mean?
I think most mothers want to be involved in helping plan their daughter’s wedding whether their daughter is 20 or 40. I just don’t want to hurt my mother’s feelings because I know she is really excited about all the wedding stuff and she wants to see every dress I try on.
Post # 8
Honestly, I’d let go of some of the guilt. Sometimes you just need to try them on by yourself. What I did was try on a bunch with my MOH and a BM. Then I narrowed it down to 3 (however, I knew the moment I put it on which dress I wanted but I wanted my mother to have a chance to see me in a few different dresses) and then she came to the shop with me and I tried on the three for her 🙂
Post # 9
I think that’s fine. And maybe you can include her when you make the final decision or if you have narrowed down your selections somewhat. Then she can help you decide because they will definitely be dresses that YOU have chosen.
Post # 10
I went without my mom. She was a little upset, but I know I made the right decision. My mom stresses my out. She’s gets this look on her face and does this thing I can’t explain when she doesn’t quite agree with something I like. I didn’t want to fall in love with a dress and have her talk me out of it with her “look.” I fell in love with my dress, bought it..and THEN brought her to see it on me. She made her face…but the dress was paid for it was mine…so no going back. Yes you’ll feel guilty, but you know whats best for you!