Post # 1
A customer at my store strongly suggested I join WeddingBee because of all of the awesome people I would find, the ideas I would be able to check out, and the all around amazing vibe. I joined because I, like so many of you, am REALLY excited to marry my fiancee and am looking forward to our life together. However, I have noticed that once I mention that my fiancee is a woman I am almost immediately discredited or not welcome. Maybe I am being hyper sensitive (these last couple of weeks have thrown quite a few hurtles my way) but it seems to be that the bee is for straight, “all American women”. I want to find a place in the hive. I check in daily, read posts, get ideas and bask in the wedding planning glow but I just don’t feel like I fit in here. I have enjoyed my time in the hive, but I think I may need to spread my wings and find a place more GLBT friendly.
Post # 3
Welcome to weddingbee and congratulations on your engagement. I am sorry that your reception on this site has been less than kind so far. Please don’t give up on this site…there are a lot of nice people here that would love to chat. I’m all up for chatting : ). Also if it helps there is a same sex board.
I hope that you start to feel like you fit in. I know its not the same situation, but at first when I joined I felt like I was different because I felt different about marriage and what a wedding should be and traditions. But I have found that there are a variety of people on these boards.
Post # 4
I’m really sorry you feel that way. I like to think the hive is a pretty supportive, open place. Perhaps people hesitate to comment on your relationship for fear of bringing a set of assumptions based on their different experiences? Hopefully your post will bring it to everyone’s attention. I do find I get different things from different online communities. Indiebride has a great area for same sex unions: http://kvetch.indiebride.com/index.php?t=thread&frm_id=36&rid=0&S=d92b8b89240a629c130907a9f7f9045a
Hopefully you won’t leave just yet. I think there is a lot more that is similar about weddings, than different and love to hear diversity of experience. Congratulations on your upcoming marriage!
Post # 5
Don’t leave! Even though I’m in a straight relationship, I felt a little akward here at first. I didn’t feel like I quite fit in at first and I mostly read the blog and stayed away from the boards. But the more time I spent here, the more welcome I felt.
Don’t give up on us yet!
Post # 6
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
Really? Who has been making you feel that way? Don’t really tell me that, though; it could get ugly. 😉 I’m sorry you’ve been having that kind of experience… 🙁
It’s true that the LGBT community here is pretty small, which is unfortunate and might make you feel like you don’t fit in. There are a few regular same-sex posters here (although one of them may have just had her wedding; not sure if she’s still posting since I haven’t seen her around recently!), though. And I think there may be “more differences among us than between us,” really, and I think you should still be able to get a lot out of this community if you’re open to it.
If you decide to leave the hive, most of us are still wishing you all the best. 🙂 And if you stay, I hope you have better experiences here in the future!!
Post # 7
What isn’t gay friendly on this site? I don’t understand? I’ve never seen a more friendly, non-judgemental group ever on the internet! (well, unless you bring up the open bar debate, lol! And even then its usually nice). I wouldn’t even classify this site as “American” because I think there are a lot of international Bees. I say the more diversity the merrier! Please stay! 🙂
Post # 8
@FutureMrsStrunk congratulations on your engagement! i’m sorry that you don’t feel that the hive is as supportive of your relationship as you want, but I want you know that there are lots of us here who support you and would love to hear about your relationship & wedding plans. Don’t give up on the hive too quickly! There are lots of people here who would love to hear all about your planning.
Post # 9
I hope you give the community a chance! We have even had several LGBT bees! Sometimes it’s hard to find the answers you’re looking for when you feel that your wedding is just “too different” from the “norm.” But I’ve noticed that while a lot of weddings do fit a mold, there is a lot of diversity here in the hive. No two weddings are the same, and the more diverse viewpoints, the better community we create. I hope that you’ll stick around, we could definitely use more diverse bees. As we’ve said before, to build a community, we need building blocks, and I think you could be one of them. 🙂 Give us a chance?
PS-If you ever need help or feel uncomfortable with a topic, feel free to PM any of the hostesses, that’s what we’re here for!
Post # 10
I am sorry that someone has made you feel that way! Weddingbee is a very accepting community, and doesn’t accept discrimination of any type! If you feel like someone is discriminating you, please flag their comment so that a moderator can check it out! We would love to have you here to share inspiration with, and stay a part of the hive, so I hope you can stay with us!
I hope your wedding planning is going well and I can’t wait to see the details!
Post # 11
I’m very sorry you feel that way! I found that one thing that really helps is to post often! People have to get to know you and your wedding! The LGBT community has been represented here and we have a couple of current hive members planning same-sex weddings. I went back and read through your posts and I’m not sure why you feel like you’re not being accepted. But I agree with Llaurra, please flag a post if it’s rude or discriminating in any way. I hope you will stay around and learn from us and let us learn from you!
Post # 12
I think you’ll find that Weddingbee is very large and vibrant community, so among the number of posters here you’ll find people who you can relate to and who share interests and some who don’t. Same as in life everywhere.
I’m not sure if there’s a certain post that rubbed you the wrong way, but I’d hope you stick around. There have been posts where my voice is in the minority (I remember one — “do you have problems saying Husband?” and another on Breezes vs. Sandals and I pointed out that until there was a public outcry Sandals didn’t allow same-sex couples at their resorts…)
Stick around, use what information you can, and look for support where you need it. You don’t have to relate to every single post to find Weddingbee a valuable resource. Bonus: unlike choosing who to wed, you don’t have to commit to a single online wedding resource. Pair what you find here with everything else that intersts you, and come back and share!!
Post # 13
Aww. Like the other I am sorry you feel that way. I know we want you all to feel comfy here. Congrats on getting married. give us a chance and if you have problems then please tell a hostess, a bee, or Mrs.Bee/ Mr. Bee. There is a lot of great information in. Just jump in and have a good time. It can be a little overhelming but in a good way.
Post # 14
i remember when someone had to explain to me what LGBT meant (im so clueless) – a wedding is a wedding to me so welcome
Post # 15
Love is Love and it has no boundaries!
This place is great! Give us a chance!
Post # 16
- Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion
Welcome to the hive! Please give it more of a chance before you turn away from this awesome community. I think there are probably lots of other people out there who would love to hear your perspective in the boards!