feeling agitated at my new extended family (vent)

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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3693 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Can’t you just ask for the chair covers back? She didn’t purchase them, they’re not hers. Tell her you have an interested buyer and you’ll need them back by such and such date.

Post # 4
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3016 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

RE: the chair covers… to me it would depend on how much they cost, honestly. If it was a lot of money, I’d just be clear about that and let her know you’re so glad she loves them, and you know where she can buy a set of her own!!! Super positive, like.  If they didn’t cost that much, I’d let it go.

As for the ex… This sounds like a very complicated situation (whatever the son did). You need to decide a few things here: are you willing to be the go-between? If so, you may have to suck up a lot of crppy BS. If not, you’ll have to figure out how to tell your husband that.

When you said “When they fight, we fight”, I am assuming you mean you fight with your husband? Unfortunately, unless you two can come to some clear terms about how to deal with the ex, I see that situation continuing. 

It sounds icky. I wish you luck. Happily, you sound like a pretty solid person, so I think it will all turn out ok with time. 

Post # 5
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1570 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

The chair covers, I would list them on Ebay, or however you intend to sell them, and then when offers come in, say, listen I have an offer of $XX for the chair covers, isnt that great, so I need them back.

Post # 6
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863 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@Chelle-Lee:  I’m not sure about the chair covers. But re his ex: she’s the mother of his children, you’re the stepmother. Her opinion trumps yours and pretty much anyone else’s (apart from the chldren) on your husband’s parenting skills where her children are concerned. I think her saying ‘Husband needs to be more sensitive with his children’ is a valid criticism. From what you wrote about this huge rift, it doesn’t sound like that comment was unfounded. They’re co-parents and there’s nothing wrong with her critiquing his parenting (as long as it’s reasonable) and discussing it with him so he can improve. In future just ask her to take her complaints directly to your DH. 

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