- 5 years ago
I found this comment on Reddit and I think it can definately apply to what a lot of us are going through. The comment essentially suggests that emotions arent always (or generally) created by circumstance. Like weather they come and go, and what many of us do is try to look for a cause, when really, there isnt one.
Its easy when you feel sad or hopeless to look at your relationship (or job, or hobby, etc) and say, “it is because of my lack of progress in my relationship [or job or hobby] that I am unhappy. It needs to change, or be different, then I will be happy.” When maybe in reality youre just feeling sad, and it has nothing to do with whats happening in your life. And that’s okay. But it also means that maybe a proposal or marriage won’t really make you “happy” or not sad. Try thinking about this idea the next time the lack of proposal seems to be making you feel down. its helping me keep perspective, and I just wanted to share. 😀
“The point is, though, that feelings are weather. Not end states or goal states or happiness or unhappiness. We don’t get angry at the world for raining on us even though we might not like it. We might feel better if the sun is shining, but we don’t hate it if its hidden behind some clouds or whatever. We don’t abandon our lives just to find sunny places. Well, most of the time, anyway. Some people do. Most of us will just take trips every so often (and we should! Its fun!). But the point is, regardless, we live where we live, and the weather is just the weather. We adapt to it, and work with it, we don’t stamp our feet at the clouds and yell at them to stop raining. We put on a raincoat. We don’t shoot at the sun cause we got a sunburn. We wear sunblock. When it rains, we aren’t cursing the planet because it rained, even if we might not be happy with it. We recognize it as a fact of life.
You live in your own world, and emotions are your personal weather. They’re a fact of life. They come and go. When you see that, when you understand that, you stop trusting them to lead you to happiness, cause your feelings have no idea how to get you there.”