Post # 1
I’m planning out the music for our ceremony/reception, and while I have a meaningful song picked out for the father-daughter dance, I’m increasingly feeling nervous and awkward about the idea of dancing with my dad in front of everyone. We have a really great relationship, but something about dancing with him for several minutes in front of people makes me feel a little bit awkward. Has anyone else felt this way?
I was thinking about making a short (maybe 2 minute) slideshow with pictures and video of us to show instead. As a guest would this bore you? Would you think it seemed a bit weird?
Post # 3
You can always shorten the song you’re going to dance to if you’re uncomfortable with the amount of time. I think a slideshow by itself would be a little dull personally. It would be sweet to play during the dance. It might make you feel a little more at ease since people will not JUST be focused on the two of you dancing, but also on the pictures.
Post # 4
@Brideonabudgetlauren: Thanks for your feedback! Adding the slideshow to the background to add a little bit of distraction is a great idea.
Post # 5
I think its going to be a bit awkward for me too. My dad is extremely shy and a very quiet man. We have a great relationship, but I don’t think I’ve given him a hug or a kiss on the check in a year ( granted I live in a different state and only see him 3 times). I am just going to suck it up and do it ( although, I don’t even think that he would care if we didn’t do one) I’m gonna tell the band though to not play the song that long.
Post # 6
I’m so glad I’m not the only one that thinks this!!! It’s so awkward. You could do the father/daughter and mother/son dances at the same time or just nix it completely. He’s walking you down the aisle so you’re still paying tribute to him in that way. I think it’s just one of those traditions that people can’t let go of. Guests get really bored with this portion anyway.
Post # 7
@KJM33: I’m glad I’m not alone too! I’ve thought about nixing it, but I wonder if it would hurt my dad’s feelings. My mom told me recently that he’s been insisting that they take dance lessons before the wedding so he has some moves ready for our dance. I don’t know what moves my 64-year-old, arthritic dad is about to bust out, but I fully plan on just kinda swaying a little.
Post # 8
Youdon’t have to do it if you are this uncomfortable. You could just give a toast to him if you’d like or I love the slideshow idea.
I am not doing a father/daughter dance. I am just not that close to my father.
Post # 9
I am also in a similar predicament. My dad is a huge jokester—but not everyone gets his humor. I am a little worried that he will do something to make me feel awkward (he loves doing this to see how I will react!). My plan is to start out the father-daughter dance with just the two of us, but then have the DJ invite other father-daughter pairs to join in on the dance. If there are no other pairs joining in, I will have the DJ open the dance to all guests.