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I wouldn't worry about it at all. A ton of rings look similar and you even have different stone types. You should not feel awkward at all, you have a beautiful ring and someone who is made for small similarities would be ridiculous.
If you found it by creeping on Facebook then you obviously didn't know she had that ring when you picked out yours, so there's no real problem. Plus, I think the differences in metal and stone shape are enough to set them apart.
All that matters is that you love your ring and how special it is to you!
@KendallR10: "Love" is an understatement...I'm mildly obsessed with it haha! I feel sad now that it's at the jeweler's for the next two weeks. Why do you ask?
i would just play it off like i never saw it on fb. when she asks to see it, she'll probably be like "whoa, that looks a lot like mine!" and then you just be like "oh really? no way! we chose mine at Jared's, where did you get yours?" etc etc... it's just a coincidence after all. :]
It sounds to me like they look pretty different, so I wouldn't feel awkward. I don't think anyone else would notice! I don't even know by this description how they can be the same ring. . .
I think the gold/white gold and cushion/round make your ring different enough. Also, 4 years have passed so she may not care all that much. As long as you love your ring, that is what matters.
@Kant: If you LOVE your ring why should it matter?
If she says anything just say something about having good taste
Out of curiosity, what is the ring? Do you have a link to a picture of it on the Jared's site?
I think you're completely overthinking it. I'd love to see a picture so I can see what it really looks like. There are some differences between the rings and the color of the gold is different. She'll probably notice that it's similiar, but I highly doubt she'd take out a magnifying glass and start grilling you. Jared is a very common place, and if it was me I'd be happy that a family member considered my style so beautiful that they subconsciously wanted something similiar. Be happy with the ring and let it go. It would be different if it was your sister and there was some sibling rivarly drama or something...a couple is different.
@Melanie422 and @clane616: Here's the pic from Jared's website, and a pic I took this morning on my hand:
Yeah, let the awkward go. For one, it sounds like there's enough differences that you're obviously not trying to copy her, and also... imitation is the sincerest form of flattery!
Not the same thing at all, but when we'd been dating for a few months, FI got new glasses and I kind of choked when I saw them--he'd gotten the men's version of my frames and didn't realize it at all. Things like that are just odd, and even if you're not close with her, I'm sure it'll just be funny.
@elliestan: Haha that's my general plan but I am a big blusher so I'm afraid it'll be a dead giveaway that I'm fibbing. I'm sure I'm just overthinking it at this point though so oh well.
If I were you, I would point it out to her when you see her next and make light fun of it like, "great minds think alike". Really there's no reason for anyone to get upset, an Ering is super personal and honestly no two rings are exactly alike because diamonds are like snowflakes anyway.
About a gazillion people have a setting almost exactly like that. Honestly, you could get it at almost any jeweler. And, the different diamond shape really sets it apart. It you had gotten a plain band solitaire, with different diamond cuts, you probably wouldn't feel this way. I think your setting is the modern equivalent - bands with diamonds like that are everywhere, so you really shouldn't feel embarrassed.
Round.. cushion, single prong.. double prong, white gold.. yellow gold. Sounds different enough to me!! I doubt even she would notice its *exactly* the same ring based on your picture since so many are similar to that.
I think with the gold difference, prong and stone shapes being different..they are really DIFFERENT enough ! and you have nothing to even worry about
act like you dont even know/didnt notice
gorgeous by the way
@pinkshoes: Yeah.
"The only difference is that mine is white gold and hers is yellow, and mine is a double-prong set cushion center and hers is single-prong set round". So.... the only thing in common is that it's a solitaire? You and millions of other women will have that much in common.
Considering the gold color, cut and prong configuration are ALL differen AND that she's been married so long, I would bet money that she won't care at all! Enjoy your new ring without feeling guilty.
They dont sound like exactly the same ring so I really wouldnt worry about it, besides alot of e-rings look alike
I think they sound different enough-- I wouldn't worry about it. :) If you do tell her, make sure she knows that you didn't realize it was the same setting when you picked it out. Really, though, a lot of girls have similar settings, so she might not even notice their similarities. You know, it could've been a sort of subconscious thing-- it could've affected your taste without you consciously realizing you were choosing a ring similar to hers. Don't feel bad! :)
@moderndaisy: This is a great idea! Totally breaks the ice IF there were any concerns. I think they are different enough no one will really say anything.
whatever. there are some differences so whats the big deal? Unless you both have a super unique ring it doesnt really matter. Nobody will be able to tell and even if they do who cares. Essentially all our rings are very similar. Diamond with some or no details with some or no other diamonds or whatever on some sort of metal/gold band. In the end I don't think anyone will care or notice.
You know, there are a gazillion women getting engaged but there's only 1/2 a gazillion settings to choose from. Enjoy your ring!
Mine and my SIL's look almost the same with the white gold, solitare, and princess cut. However, I think that they look completely different because I have a more rounded band and a plain white wedding band. I may have tried that ring on a few times in the days before my brother proposed and became obsessed with the shape and style. It really doesn't matter since I absolutely adore the ring that my husband designed and the stone he picked for it.
I have had two friends, before they got engaged, tell me "i want a ring just like yours!" they both are now engaged with rings that are "just like mine." both went for different stones (mine is round brilliant and theirs are both princess), and the settings are not exactly the same, but they are very very similar -and i don't mind one bit! personally, i think its a)a compliment to me since they liked mine and b)bound to happen just out of chance, because my style of ring seems to be very popular right now.
no need to say anything at all. when you see her, play it off like it was a total coincidence, because...it was!!! don't let it stress you out...i am sure she'll get a kick out of it.
I think it's a fairly popular ring design so I don't think she can be upset! Plus, you have different metals and diamond shapes - don't worry about it!
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So SO and I finally have a ring in our possession, it's currently at the jeweler's being set. I was creepin' through Facebook-land last night and ended up on his cousin's wedding photo album (she got married 2 years ago). I realized that...I picked the exact same e-ring as her! :O I know it's the same because she posted a pic of it in its ring box, which has Jared's written on it, and that's where mine came from too. The only difference is that mine is white gold and hers is yellow, and mine is a double-prong set cushion center and hers is single-prong set round.
Now I'm dreading when I see her next and she asks to see the ring. I'm sure she'll recognize it...hers has been on her hand for 4 years at this point so she definitely is familiar with it haha. Is it totally awkward that we have the same ring? Should I say something to make light of it or should I just wait to see her reaction? Am I totally overthinking this? (Probably.) She and I aren't really close so it wouldn't be like I came to my best friend and said OMG LOL WE HAVE THE SAME RING HOW FUNNY, it would be more like, "Ummm...did you do that on purpose? That's kinda weird...." However, she didn't pick her ring herself and I didn't know her when she got engaged so maybe it's less weird? It came from a big-box jeweler after all...someone somewhere in the world is bound to have that same ring.
I dunno. I think I mostly feel awkward because I only found out via Facebook creeping so now I feel like a weirdo. Should I?