Feeling awkward about wedding, babies and new job

posted 2 years ago in Career
Post # 2
3432 posts
Sugar bee

DarlingClementine:  Don’t worry!  No point in stressing until it becomes an issue.  I was hired when I was nearly 7 months pregnant (I know very lucky), but I could commit two years so despite being out for 6 weeks after two months of working, I have been working since.  Don’t think becuase you mentioned getting married that it is a factor against you.  In one sense it could be seen as you are committed and mature and that you are willing to do teamwork or that you “play well with others” or something similar to those lines.  Sorry I’m doing a terrible job at trying to boost you up 🙁

My point is, don’t think because you’re getting married that it is counting against you.

Post # 3
1059 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

DarlingClementine:  I think this depends on where you live. I’m in the US and maternity leave here SUCKS. However, employers are not legally allowed to discriminate against women or pregnant women.

The only issue with the 6 month contracts (in the US) would be the Family Medical Leave Act (FMLA). You have to have been employed by your current employer for at least one year at the time you take your leave to be able to use it. This may not be an issue for you if you are not a US bee. But if you are, it’s something to consider. Most maternity leaves I’ve seen around here are only 6-8 weeks without the FMLA.

I would not worry about it currently. In my experiance, employers are looking for good employees and not too concerned about their child bearing years.

Post # 4
1202 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Yes, there’s a ton of unspoken/unconscious bias against young women, but companies also don’t want to open themselves up to lawsuits by firing (or not extending a contract to) a visibly pregnant woman.  Sometimes you have to look for the silver lining, haha!    

(Also, your boss doesn’t need to  know you “might be having kids at some point”) 

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