(Closed) Feeling Bad About Bridesmaids! Advice needed, please!

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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2282 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I don’t think you’re asking too much. I think you’re being quite generous. Sounds very much like the best bridesmaid experiences I had, actually.

 

Post # 4
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548 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@sikkinott:  Have any of them been complaining?  Did they have a say in the dress you chose?

IMO, $160 plus alterations is a *bit* steep, but I’d still pay it if I were a bridesmaid for someone I loved.

They opted to get their hair done themselves, so maybe they’re not hurting too badly for cash, but it totally depends on your circle of friends. 

I think if you wrote them all a heartfelt thank you for everything they’ve done, it’d be nice.

Post # 5
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1659 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@sikkinott:  I think that you should just tell them 🙂 seriously, just have an honest chat and tell them how much their involvement means to you and how honored you are to have them next to you when you said your vows. As a bridesmaid, I would personally much rather know that I am important to the bride…a monogrammed robe or a paid-for updo is not very exciting to me.

Post # 6
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263 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@sikkinott:  I think the words you need to focus on in this post are they’ve all chosen.

I think it’s great that you want to do so much for your girls and I understand because I’m the same way. But, they knew what they were getting themselves into when they agreed. And whether you properly asked or not, they know now you want them in the wedding and have (presumbably) agreed to participate.

I’m sure as grateful as you are to have their support they are just as grateful to be able to lend that support. Just keep repeating how much their support means to you and unless they come to you with money woes, Relax.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I don’t think you’re being unreasonable! Know that they love you… and that if it gets to be too much, they’ll either tell you or seek help from their own resources. Everyone knows the expectations these days, so they should know what they’re getting into when they agree to be a BM. My girls are paying $154 for the floor length dress, they can wear whatever black shoes they want, I am giving them each a clutch, a wine glass (monogrammed), and a necklace to wear at the wedding. I wish I could do more but I have 8 girls!!!!

Post # 9
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548 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@sikkinott:  Yeah, I think you’re okay then.  I can see your concerns… I’d have the same ones, but in this case, I think they’re all on-board.

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