Post # 1
So, around here it’s almost always the MOB that hosts the bridal shower (same goes for baby showers, it’s usually the Mom of the Mom-to-be). So, my Mom is hosting my shower, but she didn’t want to do it at her house since it’s quite small and for my sisters shower they was about 35-40 guests, so she/we were expecting about the same number of people. So, she went ahead and rented a beautiful room at one of the local inns. Now, it’s looking like I’ll have about 15-20 people and I feel super bad that my Mom booked all this and is spending all this money on such a small shower 🙁 She could have hosted this many people in her own home, and handled the catering herself instead of going through the inn.
I’m also not gonna lie, I’m kinda disappointed that so many people aren’t able to make it 🙁 And a few of my good friends aren’t even making an effort to go. They’re going to be in town, but can ony go “if it rains” And that makes me sad, because I’d be making such an effort if it was for them 🙁 Anyone have friends do this? Am I totally over reacting with my bride brain?
Post # 2
CanadianBride456: i had a lot of friends who couldnt make it to my bachelorette party ;-( you just have to bruch it off. as far as your mom, can she cancel the booking?
Post # 3
Same thing happened to me because my Shower was over Memorial Weekend. Still had a blast with the 25 people who were there. You will have fun don’t worry.
Post # 4
CanadianBride456: I’d feel bad if my shower were only the rainy day plans for my friends, too. That really stinks! Is it a well known holiday weekend where most people go out to the beach/lake/park?
And I guess if you’ve already sent out invitations, then you can’t really change the venue. It was your mom’s choice to host at the inn, and this way, she doesn’t have to work as hard to get the party set up and ready!
Look at the good things: the people who are committed to celebrating with you, that your mom wants you to have the best shower she can give you, and that you have a great support network.
Post # 5
Wow, that really sucks that some of your friends would only go if it rains and they can’t do anything else. Those “friends” would no longer be invited to the wedding. I had a few friends that didn’t come to my bridal shower even though they all lived close by. They somehow managed to show up at my wedding though. I’m sure the free food and drinks had nothing to do with it lol. Needless to say, I don’t really associate with those girls anymore.
Post # 6
It takes a lot of nerve to actually tell someone that they’ll only show up to their bridal shower if it rains. I understand not going to all pre-wedding parties, they can get pricey. I’m with IzzyBear in that if someone had the nerve to tell me that, I’d let them know that I’d relieve them of the burden of attending my wedding.
Post # 7
I’m as non-confrontational as they come, so I didn’t say anything to my friend who said she’d only come if it rains. But through that, and a few other incidences I’ve come to realize we’re not as good of friends as I thought.
This is the same friend that I wrote about here
Post # 8
The rain excuse might not be that far out there. Playing or watching sports, outdoor jobs, previous plana to go to the lake… All those can be weather dependent.
Post # 9
For my shower, we invited 43 and 21 people came.
For my bach, we invited 23 and 9 people came.
I was a little bummed for the same reasons. For my shower, my MOH rented a really nice room and got really good food and it was so expensive. But honestly it didn’t feel super small. We had about 4-5 tables and guests mingled and a nice thing was I got to spend more time with the friends that were there. I definitely didn’t feel like I was missing out and it was one of the my favorite days.
I think that a lot of people just don’t come to pre-wedding events. It’s hard to get people to attend events I’ve found…they are busy with whatever else and the turn out is not that great. That’s not to say I wasn’t disappointed that some people didn’t make an effort to be there and some weren’t “good” excuses (some didn’t even RSVP which also sucked), but I also remember that these events are never as important to others as they are to the bride. And life happens and it’s not peoples’ #1 priority to RSVP or attend an event.