Post # 1
I will try to keep this short and simple but have a lot of bitter feelings lately!!
My dress came in last week and 2 of my sisters were “too busy” to come look at with me, so I went alone..I really wished someone was there to ease my feelings of regret on the dress, which I am now over..originally it was my 16 year old sister and my 2 friends as BM’s, then my other 2 sisters made a stink about it ( I didn’t want them in the wedding bc I knew money was an issue..I won’t even go there!), so now they are in it, and no one asks me anything about the wedding…wonder if I am getting married sometimes!?!
Second…my fiance’s family…my fiance was the rebel child, the older brother is perfect, married to his HS sweetheart, 3 kids, loaded, yada yada ya. His wife’s family has always been top priorority . This past weekend , she (wife) took her brothers fiance (her brother happened to be a rebel too) up to a spa resort. So the pics are on FB and they are all giddy having a great time looking at bridal stuff. Not going to lie, jealous..for many reasons..probably because my family is sucking at being excited for me, and his brother could care less about him.
Just had to vent about my bitter feelings, anyone else have bitter jealous resentment out there…anyone? LOL
Post # 3
didn’t you post this yesterday too?
Post # 4
Honestly, if your Fiance is a rebel child, you can’t really expect them to invite him to everything and go all kum-ba-ya just because now you’re in the picture. Also, it sounds like it was your soon-to-be sister-in-law’s brother by blood, am I correct? I think I would be closer to my own brother and his fiance than my husband’s brother’s fiance. Or maybe they just don’t know you very well! How about you invite them on a spa day?
Post # 5
yes, posted twice, didnt know if i posted in right spot bc i only got one reply, thought there would be some more bitter people out there but I guess not!
Post # 6
Nope, they’re out there (here). Maybe they have people possibly reading these boards and find it too sensitive an issue to discuss publicly. Stuff along those emotional-type-lines happened when I got married (28 years ago this year!) and it still hurts. So much that when my daughter excitedly announced her upcoming engagement I was totally on board to make up for the hurt I’d felt as a bride. And it hurts me when I see her get negative or neutral reactions from family members regarding her wedding plans too. I mean, yeah…it IS just one day out of your life but hello? It’s YOUR WEDDING DAY and it is supposed to be a big deal! Would it kill some people to at least be polite and fake being excited? I hope you don’t get dealt any more hurts like you’ve already got. If you don’t get the involvement you wish for from family, try to forgive them even though it may hurt inside for a long time. Make great memories for your Fiance and yourself, you owe it to yourselves.
Post # 7
Thank you for some encouragement! I realize I am probably making a big deal out of nothing regarding the spa thing, but at the moment, it hurt, and I vented, so I don’t see anything wrong with that…and yes my sisters could atleast pretend to be excited..like when I called them and told them my dress came in..I called the 16 year old first, and she seemed annoyed, and then told me she had to pick up a friend, whatever, shes 16 so I rolled it off my back..but the 24 year old..well, she had to go to the mall and get a shirt for st. patricks day! ( even though she owes me $50 I lent her to get the bridesmaids dress!!). Ugh, I know they will always be there and they are family, and I will try to forgive but I know someday they will understand how they are doing little things without realizing it to hurt me!