- 5 years ago
- Wedding: December 2009
I had a good time with my family these past couple of weeks. However, my FIL is so annoying that I hardly enjoyed my time with my in-laws and I feel that I cannot stand him anymore!!
Back story: MY FIL is the most clingy, annoying and selfish man ever!! I mean, he’s nice to me and all of us and our over-all relationship is good as long as I keep my mouth shut and agree to everything he says. He once confessed to me that although he was somewhat saddened by my BIL’s divorce, he was glad that he had his son back (meaning he didn’t have to share him with his wife, now ex-wife anymore). He wants to have DH and I at his house at all times, and he could care less that I also have parents, sisters, and grandparents that I visit during the holidays. Any who, here’s what happened:
We always stay at my mom’s house during our visits and my FIL and MIL live 30 minutes away. They don’t have a spare room so we stay at my mom’s. FIL insists that we stay with them but we either have to sleep in different beds or share the room with someone which is pretty uncomfortable for a married couple. In the week and a half that we stayed there, all he did was bicker about us staying at my parent’s home and how my MIL cannot cook anymore so my DH prefers to stay with my parents because she cooks very elaborate meals etc, etc. Although we stayed at my parent’s house, we visited them EVERY day of our stay. Apparently that was not enough!! The times that we were there, he just kept bugging about everything. He told me that I had taken enough pictures of our nephew already, like that is a crime!! In every other sentence he’d threw in the word baby! He’s been subtly or not to subtly pressuring us to have a baby already. I wanted to have donuts with my coffee and he argued with my husband because he wanted to go to the store to get me some donuts. His argument: They have cookies, therefore I don’t need donuts. The list goes on and on and on but it’s stuff like that that drove me crazy for the past week and a half.
DH is on the same page and his dad annoys him too and he has talked to him repeated times. He does not seem to get it because in his world, he’s always right. BIL and his now ex-wife had a lot of issues regarding my FIL’s boundaries. They ended up splitting up because she could not take it any longer (they live in the same city though). I don’t know if it’s because I’m back home or the cold weather or hormones, but I’m just soooo sad. I keep thinking that I won’t be able to stand my FIL for much longer and that we’re going to end up splitting up just like my BIL. BTW, he’s only annoying with the women, he’s so sexist that he never ever says anything to his son-in-law.
I’m sorry this is so long, but I’m just so blue right now that I had to write this somewhere because I don’t think my husband can take anymore of my complaining about his dad any thoughts or advice are welcomed.