Post # 1
I’ve been to a 5 places now, and only two had dresses that I liked or staff that listened to me. I’m a street 18ish (though I’m much larger in the bust) but I’ve managed to get into the occasional 18 sample, though my loveley orange underwear were on display. (Haha… I keep it classy.) I found something I LIKE, but I’m not totally sold on it. I feel it’s a little cookie-cutter. I wanted to keep looking, and try on more light natural-waist dresses (the one I like is a mermaid) and not wear a different version of the same dress as all my friends.
I’m sick of well-meaning sales girls sticking me in the pouffy-with-pick-ups-sounds-like-ski-pants-when-you-walk dresses, and I’m not sitting there keeping my opinions to myself, though I’m not rude. Ugh. What do I do?
Also, any voluptuous ladies that didn’t feel that “dress love” but never had dress regret?
Post # 3
*hugs* I’m sorry you are going through this. Try to stay positive and I’d definitely be firm with the salespeople- make it clear you love your body and want to show off your curves, not camouflage them!! I hated dress shopping in the beginning- all the dresses felt so weird and I didn’t want to try any on and when I did I thought everything looked horrible on me and nice on everyone else. But, after a couple stores, it started to become more fun and then I started to love everything on me! lol It’s a once in a lifetime thing, so try to enjoy yourself- I wish I spent more time trying on more dresses (eventhough I love the dress I ultimately got, after having dress regret with the first dress I chose). Take your time and don’t feel pressured to buy on the spot:)
Post # 4
Seriously, this was me! I wound up googling a crap load of dresses after a few disappointing appts because I just couldn’t find a dress I loved and I stumbled upon Essence of Australia…gorgeous and different dresses! I’m a 18 street size and my Essence of was a 22
Post # 5
Oh la la! You look fantastic!
Post # 7
@candykristina: 🙁 I hope you find your dress!
Post # 8
hello I am a size 18 as well and was dreading going dress shopping. i went to 5 shops and some tips I learned was to ask ahead when scheduling the appt. finally don’t feel bad about who you are… I recently went to another dress shop and these people we’re adamant that i should try on a 14 because it was corset…these ppl don’t get it. Anyway so with no assistance from the employees I was put in a fittin room to fend for myself … Long story short the 14 was stuck…I mean stuck where I was sweating…I had two choices cry or be a woman ask for help and get over it. The sales ppl made me feel bad saying dont try on dresses that don’t fit so I came back at them saying If I had help we wouldn’t be at this point. I got so fed up that I tore the hell out of that dress trying to get out…I asked for help twice with no respoNse. I put on my clothes and walked out with confidence. My money is green and I am a customer, I am a bride and I am beautiful. even a size 6 would get stuck in a 2….. Lol but the battle is over an I founD the one. I remember the night before my first a bridal appt and I had serious anxiety that my fiancé calmed me down hugged me and said just have fun as if u were buying just any other dress, and shopping with your friends, but this time the most beautiful dress on YOU…
Post # 9
Thanks, bees. Between my awesome bridesmaids, my FI, and the bee, I’m getting there. Go me! And go you guys! 🙂
Post # 10
I traveled two hours to a place that catered to plus size woman, just knowing that they had over 100 dresses I could get on made the process so much easier. At the time I found my dress (as pictures) I was a street size 18 too. I was scared to try on anything form fitting however my consultant insisted I try on a slim a line and I ended up loving it. If you have the time and resorces to find the right salon I promise you will find the perfect dress…trust your consultant they usually do know what they are talking about if they work with curvy girl all the time!
I also tried on lots of dresses with pickups and poof thinking it would hide my imperfections but my (also plus sized) bridesmaid gave me a moment of clarity…she said all these dresses look beautiful on you but you look like a curvy girl trying to hide your curves, why not show them off!
This is what I ended up with ( it still needs alteration) nixing the bow I think and changing the neckline.
Good luck with your search!