Feeling both selfish and needy.

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
4941 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I think you’re totally justified in feeling how you do. DH used to do this, too, and until I sat down and had a conversation with him about it and how it was making me feel he really didn’t even realize it was bothering me. Just sit down and tell him that after he’s been gone all day, you’d like some time with just the two of you to catch up on your days, etc.

Post # 3
1844 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Aly7489:  I would say “honey, I’m having a hard time right now. I think some ‘us’ time would make me feel better. Can we please go for a walk/grab coffee/watch a movie tonight, just the two of us?”

Post # 6
812 posts
Busy bee

Aly7489:  I know I can get pretty obsessive over new things, and yes it may be a couple weeks before interest fades and my FI works out of town A LOT. So even though we live together, we don’t spend much time together. But he’s a trooper and knows how I can get, so his response is “as long as we are together, I am happy doing whatever you are doing”. Even if that’s him watching me be obsessive or him doing his own thing in the same room.

You guys live together and you can see him marvel over this new toy. It sounds like you are jealous over a machine. Why don’t you try joining him If you need to be that involved. Or how about picking up a hobby for yourself, while he is playing with this new toy? its not like he is completely ignoring you for this machine. And if it still bothers you, ask him to limit his time. 

Post # 7
216 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Aly7489:  I feel like I could have written this post. I travel a lot for work and told my fiance that I need better communication from him during the week. The other day he called me for 10 minutes and then said he was super busy and had to go do work. Later I texted him and he responded “chatting with X (roommate), can’t text, it would be rude” and I was like, “umm, okay” and THEN three hours later I asked him how he was doing and he said he was WATCHING A MOVIE. 

I was fuming. I still am. I guess the only thing we can do is let them know how we feel…? 

Post # 8
1107 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

Aly7489:  Lol, I have to say…if I had a 3D printer in my house, I would probably spend a lot of time playing with it too! That’s gotta be super cool! I can’t blame him for being excited about that sort of thing. If this behavior is new since it came into the house it’ll eventually lose it’s newness, so I wouldn’t worry too much!

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