(Closed) Feeling bummed about bach party

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
16216 posts
Honey Beekeeper

I know you’re feeling sad that your weekend didn’t work out, but I promise that you can have an amazing night out with your girls. My girls and I would never have had the money to do a whole weekend away, but they gave me the best night out I could ever ask for.

I understand why you’re feeling jealous and bummed. Totally. But try not to get too caught up in what he’s doing or what you could be doing. You’ve still got a lot to look forward to! Could you maybe do like a girls’ lunch or something the day after your night out, so you have one more element to enjoy? That will elongate the event a little bit so maybe it doesn’t feel like such a letdown.

Your bachelorette party is important, and you should absolutely get to have a great night, but don’t forget how it’s all just leading up to the REAL big event — your wedding and marriage and all of the wonderful things that come with it!

Post # 4
891 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think you have every right to feel the way you do. I’m in a similar boat. You can still have a great time though!

Maybe they could arrange something the next town over for a long weekend?

Post # 5
989 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Yes, I can totally relate.  The same thing happened/is happening to me right now with my shower and bachelorette.  I won’t get into all the details, but I know how you feel.  Disappointed, but guilty for feeling disappointed because you’re not “supposed” to have any expectations. 

I think you’ll still have an amazing time at your party.  Maybe you and your Maid/Matron of Honor could take a girls trip together, just the two of you?

Post # 6
2450 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

i feel kinda stupid while saying this… but i clicked on this thread because i thought the title indicated that there was a party themed to Johann Sebastian Bach…

Post # 7
1818 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I think your girls were just so excited for you that they made statements they probably shouldn’t have regarding your bachelorette party. I’m sure they wanted to give you that experience, but sometimes reality hits and it’s just not feasible. They are adults with their own lives and responsibilities, and they are probably spending a lot of money on your wedding, so the additional expense of a trip just wasn’t going to be possible when all is said and done. I’m sure they regret saying that to you and getting your hopes up, but until something was booked, it was never a set in stone plan. I agree with the PP, just enjoy the experience for what it is, not for what you feel like you are missing out on. Spend time with your friends and let the rest go. Your Fiance is lucky to have friends who are able to do that for him and its ok to be a little bit sad, but your friends are still doing something nice for you (and something above and beyond what they have to do) so just try to be appreciative of that. You can definitely feel sad and vent here, but then let it go and just have fun with your girls when the bach party comes.

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