- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2011
I’ve been a weddingbee lurker for a while and have finally now decided to register. Something has been really been eating at me, so I figured the bee was the perfect place to vent a bit.
My Maid/Matron of Honor has been doing the planning for the bachelorette, which will be in Vegas. I guess when she got the final response from the girls, she told me that “Everyone said no.”, but said it in such a way that really hurt. My initial feelings in my head when she said that was rejection and sadness; did no one want to come out with me to party on my last hurrah? It just really hurt. To add insult to injury, she added, “psh, we could’ve already started booking things if we knew that everyone was going to say no” because pretty much its only going to be me and the BMs/MOH. True as it may be, I just felt it was way out of line. Not sure, is it just me? I mean, it is a long weekend to spend away for a bachelorette, and maybe it was tough for people to dedicate a whole weekend to it… but still, not ONE person?!
Asides from being taken back by that comment, I didn’t say anything to her directly. I did instead go crying to my fiance. Is it wrong of me to feel a bit dejected because no one wanted to come to the bachelorette? He pointed out that they are indeed coming to the wedding, which did put a point in favor of the fact they didn’t HATE me or something, but still. Also, to add to it, my Maid/Matron of Honor told me in the description of the invite, she emphasized that the whole weekend will be drinking galore! I don’t even want that! I’ve been sick recently, which she’s aware of, and I don’t want to drink. Instead, i was hoping for a relaxing weekend, with spa action, maybe some pool action if weather permits, shopping and some gambling. Also, I know for a fact that the invitees aren’t exactly big drinkers, so do you think the vibe she put in the invite could have also put people off as well?! Grr.. isn’t the Maid/Matron of Honor supposed to work her best to GET people to come or something? She didn’t even follow through with some responses apparantly… sigh.
I don’t know. I was hoping for an awesome weekend with my girls and although I am glad I have my closest friends there, I just feel it won’t be the same without the other girls coming as well because I’m carrying all this self-doubt and rejection from the fact that no one seems to be able to make it. Part of me wants to blame my Maid/Matron of Honor, but I know I shouldnt. I don’t know, I’m just a jumble of feelings right now. Don’t know what to think
Sorry if this was a bit long, I thank you if you got this far. Let me know your thoughts and please don’t be afraid to be honest. Or just send hugs, cuz I don’t know how excited I am anymore about my bachelorette =(