Post # 1
Ever since we got married, I’ve always said I wanted a vow renewal. We cancelled our plans originally and went to the courthouse in jeans, me in a ponytail, and our daughters in strollers because our youngest had to have urgent surgery. There was no kiss, no vows, no photos, nothing.
Now, almost four years later, we’re in the position to where I can have any type of renewal I could dream up. But I feel.. .stupid? Ungrateful? Bratty? Like that by renewing our vows I’m being some kind of attention whore or spending money on stupid things. I know it would mean a lot to my husband, especially after I was diagnosed with cancer a few months ago. Did anyone else feel like maybe a vow renewal was unncecessary and ultimately did it anyways? What changed your mind?
I don’t know what I’d even do for a renewal. I don’t want some big affair. I’m not the type to invite a ton of people to anything because I’m a pretty private person. I just feel overwhelmed.
Post # 3
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
I think you are justified in wanting a vow renewal. Go for it!
Post # 4
I say definitely go for it. If you had a big lavish wedding once and want a big lavish vow renewal party, then maybe MAYBE I would agree that you’re being selfish/silly. Wanting to celebrate your marriage is not selfish, bratty, or stupid – you didn’t have the chance to celebrate as you wanted when you got married, and now you have the means.
It doesn’t have to be a big affair – heck it could be in your backyard if you wanted (if you have one).
Post # 5
Vow renewals are never really necessary. However, they are a wonderful way of celebrating years of marriage and getting through hard times.
I am hesitant about my vow renewal for similar reasons. The thing is, I know my family would LOVE to see me say my vows wearing a wedding gown. I am receiving a lot of social support because I eloped the first time.
My husband and I are also private people, so our vow renewal will be small yet elegant.
Post # 6
@PositiveThinking: Yeah, at maximum I’d invite maybe 10-12 people. The only thing “lavish” would be a wedding dress and of course, cake. But really, I celebrate everything with cake 😛
Post # 7
- Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor
@stuckinwonderland: Oh girl, I agree with the PPs – I think you’re totally justified in wanting to do a vow renewal. Go for it!!!!
Post # 8
I love cake too…though I am on a diet and can’t eat it.
We were thinking close to 40 people.
Post # 9
I honestly felt the same way you do…and I still kinda do even though my dh said he wanted to do it for me though because he knows I was disappointed when we first got married. Our situation was similiar to yours…we got married at the courthouse, I was 6 months pregnant with our first child. We had no pictures..none of my family was able to be there, no reception. I thought I would be ok with not having a more formal wedding, but years later it was still bothering me. I keep feeling like something was missing.
So, this year for our 8 year wedding anniversary we are finally doing it! I would say you are justified for having a vow renewal…and it doesn’t have to be big, huge or fancy….just do what you want.
We aren’t having anything big…basically writing our own vows, and having an appetizer reception with our family…and of course pictures and dancing!! I think we are having 50 people total…if that even.
Go for it!!
Post # 10
Hope to see pictures! Our vow renewal will be very intimate yet formal.
Post # 11
@stuckinwonderland: Everyone deserves their dream wedding. You can have it as big or as small as you want. Its still a wedding. You need to create good memories. Don’t skip out on things you really want for your wedding because you feel guilty. GO FOR IT!!! My husband got married in a courthouse 2 years ago and have been through hell and are finally starting to make our way back. We plan on having a vow renewal because the little vows we did say have been broken and we want our family and friends to be present next time.