Feeling confused

posted 2 years ago in Proposals
Post # 2
1136 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

4nightowls27:  My FI had my ring hidden in his study for 6 months before he proposed while he worked up the courage to ask my parents permission! (I have no idea why he was nervous, they LOVE him!)

I think he was very relieved once he got the ring on my finger lol not to say that it’s the exact same scenario with your bf but there could be many reasons that you may not think of, i’m sure you don’t need to worry! 4 weeks isn’t very long if he’s still trying to plan the proposal etc. I would never have guessed that my FI would have waited so long for that reason, i’m sure it will all make sense once he asks!

If you guys talk about it all the time and that is the direction you are heading I don’t see any red flags. Try not to get too anxious about it and just look forward to all the lovely things to come! 🙂

Post # 4
133 posts
Blushing bee

It sounds like he is consciously trying hard to keep the ring a secret and the proposal a surprise which is why he is not talking about anything marriage related. He probably feels like if he talks about marriage then he’ll accidentally spill the beans and/or you’ll get a clue about what he’s planning. He may also be planning an elaborate proposal, or working on being creative, and/or waiting on the perfect timing.

Post # 5
332 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: Davis Island Garden Club

I’m sure he has stopped talkin about it to avoid giving away the surprise. He may be holding off to wait for a special occasion? My advise is to try to forget you found it (I know it’s hard)! the moment will be so much better for both of you if you let him surprise you in his own way. Try to avoid looking too much into every situation wondering if he is going to ask you, just let it happen!

Post # 6
1244 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

4nightowls27:  That’s easy. He had kept it this long because he’s planning a particular moment to pop the question, and he isn’t bringing up marriage now because he doesn’t want to spoil the surprise.

Post # 7
330 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

4nightowls27:  I think he’s just waiting for the right moment or planning something special. I also think he’s not talking about it because hes afraid of slipping and saying something he shouldn’t. Good luck! once he asks everything will make sense.

Post # 8
1773 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

My FI had my ring for 2 months before he popped the question. We went from talking about getting married every day to him changing the subject when I’d bring anything up. Turns out he was trying to completely take me by surprise by throwing me off the trail. 

Post # 10
2 posts

My fiance had my ring for 4 months before popping the question. I think your man is just trying to surprise you 🙂 you will see 🙂

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