Post # 1
I have been struggling with my weight since I was a teenager. I went from 190 to 170 in high school. When I went to college, I got back to 190. I was that weight when I met my FI. After three years, a brief stint with antidepressants (long story), and my birth control pills, I have gained 40 pounds. I’m very unhappy. I have tried dieting and exercising but my weight doesn’t fluctuate at all.
My mom (who is tiny like 95 lbs on a good day) mentioned today while we were shopping that I have put on a lot of weight in the last few years. I know she didn’t mean to hurt my feelings, but I feel like a whale. Seriously. I realize I’m on the smaller side of plus sized. I wear a 16/18 even at my weight.
FI assures me that I’m not fat and that he loves me the way I am and would love me if I got bigger or smaller, but it still upsets me. I’m just feeling really down about it tonight.
Thanks for listening to my pity party.
Post # 3
Hang in there… I know how those things go. Try to remember that the bad days never last long and it’s natural to have bad days. My biggest advice would be that if you start to feel like they outnumber the good days, it’s time for a change. Even if the change doesn’t make an impact on your weight, try doing something that makes you feel good and cared for– a facial? a new outfit? some new songs on iTunes? a long phone call with a friend? Remember that your FI may love you just as you are, but it’s most important to love yourself. Give yourself a break, allow yourself to be imperfect, and then think about what small changes you can make to pick yourself up. You can do it!
Post # 4
You know it’s just so hard. It’s like a vicious circle because you take something for your depression and gain weight and get depressed and then take something for depression and gain weight and get depressed….on and on. It sucks to have your body change regardless of your dress size. I’m only 5′ tall and was always around 100 – 110 pounds and still had curves. Then, after quitting smoking and hitting my 30’s its more like 135 pounds. Sounds small to someone else maybe to go from a size 5 to a size 8 or 10 but it’s still my body and I felt uncomfortable in it. I feel your pain, ama0219.
I did some things that finally worked for me but its difficult to actually find what works. Have you spoken with your doctor? Tell him exactly what you posted and maybe she/he could find something that would work for you. Plus, I’m happy to hear you have such a great guy! Mine said ‘i didn’t even notice’ when I gained 25 pounds, lol!