- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
I am having a tough time coming to terms with my Fiance new career. I feel horrible for feeling the way I do, which is why I am writing here instead of bringing it up with my fiance. Now before anyone goes jumping to conclusions let me explain.
My Fiance is a business man. He works for a fortune 500 company and he works ALOT. He just got a promotion. I am very happy for him, he deserves it because he totally rocks at his job and puts his heart into it. The thing is he is now working 6 days a week and even his off time is not off time.
I am in Nursing school also, which any one in the medical field can feel my pain there! So after you add my school with his job we barely ever have time for another anymore, o ya let’s include that we are busy raising our 1 yo daughter 🙂
So last night I came up with the great idea since we both have the night off, why don’t we go out for dinner and a movie? We hadn’t been in forever, and we didn’t care that it was a wednesday lol. So we dropped baby girl off at my parents house and off we went. I was pretty excited to have a night for just the two of us– I was wrong. Part of his job is he has to carry his phone with him EVERYWHERE. He is at his regional manager’s beck and call and whenever a rep of his calls him he answers it asap. And he is constantly getting emails and texts sent to his blackberry. I have tried not to let it bother me , but last night it just got under my skin! He left dinner once and the movie twice to answer his phone and was texting the other half the time. And then this morning he had to leave at 530 a.m to go to a meeting a couple hours away and STILL is not home 🙁
His hard work has been so impressive, he even got an offer from a bigger company and they are offering to pay him more. If he accepts this job he will probably end up traveling from time to time but will not have to work as many hours through the week, except for the weeks he is out of town that is.
Honestly , I feel horrible for even being upset over it, he works hard so I don’t have too , so he can provide for me and our daughter. I never thought I would complain to have a hard working man! And even though its a load , he loves his job.
I don’t know, maybe it’s just because this promotion is still new ( 3 weeks in) and I have not gotten used to it. I really don’t know how to though, I hate him being gone all the time, I miss him and I feel like all we talk about is school and work. I also hate that baby girl is not getting to see her daddy. I know he hates that part too, so I don’t try to complain.
I guess I just needed to vent. Any other ladies SO work alot , how did you adapt when it started and how do you not let the romance die or relationship suffer from the stress of it all?