Post # 1
A while back, SO mentioned that he had a couple of days where he’d propose to me – if it wasn’t one it would be the other. He told me a while back what the dates were. Well the first opportunity passed 4 weeks ago, and the second one was tomorrow. He said a couple of months ago that he was postponing it for a few months because I didn’t get a job for this year. I feel really upset because that’s not my fault! I graduated sooner than I thought I would because I swapped degree programs and missed grad job deadlines! Then apparently it was all about money all along. I don’t want a big flashy ring. I don’t care what it looks like, so long as he gives it to me on one knee.
I’m at home alone atm, trying to calm down a little before he finishes work. I know now that he’s not proposing until at least July, more likely August and I’m having a tough time right now, knowing it would have been tomorrow 🙁 I’ve been waiting for about 8 months now and I’m a very impatient person. I’ve been so good! Patience isn’t my strong point
Waiting’s getting tougher and tougher now that one of my IRL friends I was waiting with just got engaged (and on the first date of the two I could have!). All I see on her facebook is whinging about planning a wedding. At least she can plan!!!!!!!! I’m sitting here knowing that I would have been engaged tomorrow and it’s not happening for months (yes I know I’m feeling a bit bitchy but she’s supposed to be my friend and she’s rubbing salt in my wounds).
If SO weren’t so irritatingly traditional I’d ask him myself. I’ve known since we’d been together 3 months that he is the one. He’s also been saying that he’s just as desparate (his words!) to get engaged but he has to “do it properly” whatever that means. All I need is him on one knee saying those 4 words. I just don’t get why he doesn’t ask already if he wants it as much as me! :'( I’m feeling confused :-
Post # 3
@alsgirl: I’m sorry you are having a hard time right now. In all honesty, a man will do it when he wants to do it. You have to decide how long you want to wait. He will propose when he is ready, in his mind.
Post # 4
alsgirl Keep Strong! have you tried mr bees plan 2? We are about a year off and waiting is so hard! But I found the plan really works: I was so good for a month! started yoga, got a new job, really focussed on uni and my partner was like “wow you are smashing everything and even brought up marriage a few times himself”. Also try going on dates with your SO to remin him how awsum you two are 🙂 That worked for me, apparently I would have got my ring on our date last week but he hadnt organised it yet gah! Goodluck!
Post # 5
@alsgirl: I’m sorry you’re having a hard time with this. I was totally in your shoes (in some ways) in March. My boyfriend lost his job in December and was planning on proposing 3/13/13 had he not…he told me this on our anniversary in January. As it neared March 13th, my spirits kept heading downward. He got a job a couple weeks ago and once he gets back up and going like he was again and pays a few things off, a ring will be in the works! 🙂
Keep your chin up and try to keep yourself busy tomorrow and for the next few days!
Post # 6
@DayDay @MissPaigey @NicoleLyn1218: He actually has put a deposit on the ring now!!!!!! It happened a few days after my original post 🙂
Still waiting though. I think (going by what vague hints he’s giving) that it will be in August. I’m kinda hoping June or July (hello 7 week midyear uni break!) so I have some time to be happy without uni worries
Post # 7
@alsgirl: YAY! That’s awesome!! So happy (and slightly jealous of you! haha) for you!!!!!!! Keep us updated.
Post # 8
Am I the only person here who doesn’t like the whole “He said a couple of months ago that he was postponing it for a few months because I didn’t get a job for this year”
Sounds like he is ‘punishing’ you for being unemployed. Who the F does he think he is, your father?
Post # 9
the day will come! keep your chin up high.
Post # 10
@Baal: I read it as more wanting both to be financially stable since in the next line he said it was a money issue.
Post # 11
@Baal: MariContrary has it right, he wants to be in a position where if anything happened he could look after me. I think he overestimated how much money he’d save when he first started working