Feeling frustered, now what?

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

@WhenTheSkyGoesBlue:  You said it! Your Dad gave you a budget. Stay under the budget, and he’s fine with spending the money.

Your Dad’s miserable girlfriend doesn’t get a say! (Also, 350K? Seriously? Where was it–The Palace at Versailles?)

Also, my FIL was the same kind of “SAVE EVERY PENNY” naysayer. But we were paying, and it wasn’t up to him or his miserable opinion. (He forced his daughter to get married, or “They wouldn’t love the baby”. The was engaged and 31 when she got KU!)

Post # 4
Hostess
9919 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

@WhenTheSkyGoesBlue:  a 350K Wedding, that is INSANE.  Clearly you come from affluent family.  That kind of money is a house to me.  My wedding will be less than one-tenth that price tag and even that is hard to swallow!

I get where you’re coming from though.  My step-mom is a B**ch.  I’m sure she doesn’t know that my dad is going to help pay for the wedding.  She’s always putting me and my siblings down and talking about how brilliant their son is (In fairness, he is a ridiculously smart child, but my other siblings and I are not stupid by any stretch).

Stepmoms can be like this.  Ignore her, plan the wedding staying in the budget your dad gave you and enjoy your planning!

Post # 5
Member
7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

Part of me wants to say forget it, cancel our weekend, reevaluate needs vs. wants, and figure out a way to have a less expensive/smaller/local wedding.


That’s exactly what your dad’s witch of a gf wants you to do. She is only telling you that because she wants to keep as much money in your dad’s pocket for herself as possible, if she’s as big of a gold digger as you say she is. At least, that’s what I think.

our dad gave you a budget. Stick with it and do what you want. This is not her wedding, and don’t let her bring you down.

Post # 6
Member
11300 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@BrandNewBride:  You said it! Your Dad gave you a budget. Stay under the budget, and he’s fine with spending the money.

Your Dad’s miserable girlfriend doesn’t get a say! (Also, 350K? Seriously? Where was it–The Palace at Versailles?)

This times a million! Ignore that bia and do what you want.

Post # 7
Member
1706 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Sounds to me like she doesn’t want you to spend the money she’s busy gold digging for.  It has nothing to do with you or the wedding and everything to do with her not wanting that money going to anyone but her. 

Keep on keepin on with your wedding, do what YOU WANT, not what she’s trying to guilt you into.  It’s not HER money, it’s your dads, and he wants to pay I assume or he wouldn’t have offered.  EFF her.  Ignore everything and anything she says.

Post # 9
Member
757 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@WhenTheSkyGoesBlue:  ugh I hear you.  I SO hear you.  When we got engaged everyone was SO excited.  My parents couldn’t contain themselves.  My dad gave me a budget, helped me pick a date, and my mom discusses details with her friends at her weekly lunch with them.  However, now, when they talk to me its a vibe of: “well we’re only doing this because it’s what YOU want!!!!” (like with this annoying condescending tone). 

I just have to repeat over and over – Jason and I are starting a NEW family, with NEW attitudes (long story but I’m sure you can assume from what I’m saying here), and with a promise to LOVE.  Your wedding is about you- not your dad’s girlfriend and she can STFU because she has no say.  She’s probably just jealous that your dad is spedning this $$ on you and not her.  Just give yourself a mantra for when she gets to you- its YOUR day! I’m sure it will be amazing, and not a “waste” 🙂

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