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@MissTaken: I'd totally get someone the sheets or a platter for someone, but I probably wouldn't buy anyone a 200$ trash can or 80$ vase off a registry.
Plus the platter will be arround for-ev-or.
If they don't like it they just won't buy it. :)
I was JUST looking at my Amazon registry feeling the same way! I had to look up Nambe serving ware btw, I say leave it on! It does look cool and will last forever, so it's practical and beautiful! Plus look at it this way, people are going to buy you things - if you don't guide them in the right direction, you're going to end up with stuff that you don't need or want and inevitably will return/exchange. Save yourself the trouble and guilty feelings of "not liking" a present and stick to a list of stuff you really do want. 
I have a giant range of stuff on my registry from $3-$300 for our china. So really, any guest has a range of what they want to buy us. Besides, the more stuff is on your registry the easier it is for people to shop.
@Captain013: In defense of the trash can, I just added it today because our friends raved about this amazing simplehuman trash can that's automatic that's super expensive but awesome. Who would ever pay $200 for a trash can on their own? I guess the point is to get cool stuff that we wouldn't buy ourselves. I can buy my own carrot peeler and dish brush, lol. Although that stuff's on there too so we can appeal to all price points.
@SugerPlum: Yes, I wanted everything from their catalog. It's incredibly unique design. But everything has an average price point of... say... $200+.
My boyfriend's brother and his fiance (now wife) had a registry that disgusted me. It was the kind of registry you looked at and would say "who the eff do these two think they are?" Many gifts off of their 4 registries were over $300. And I'm not talking about a practical kitchenaide mixer but $450 bowls and vases. These guys are in their late twenties, middle class acting like they and their guests are part of the Gambino family. Tacky McTack.
But...it's their choice to ask for it and it's my choice not to buy it for them.
I thought their registry looked painfully tacky but having a few big ticket items is nothing to be ashamed of. Like I said - you can ask for anything you want but the guests can choose to ignore it if they don't think they can swing it.
Honestly, the only things on our registry that were more expensive was our KitchenAid, a vacumn, and our bedding, I think. We kept our price points very low because we know what the demographics of our guests were. But, if your guests are people you know that will spend that much, why not?
A friend just had a baby and I felt this way when I looked at her baby registry in November. I was looking through it and going "WTF?!" She had things like... $20-30 for one single onesie. Um.... no. She was smoking something good. And then she wondered why only one person got something off her registry.
I'd keep the serving stuff on there, because that's quite practical and will get a lot of use and love, but the trash can does seem a bit much. I would never spend $200 on something I knew people were going to chuck refuse in! LOL
Most expensive thing on my registry is a counter top ice maker for $150 as the way our kitchen is set up there is no way we can have an ice maker in the freezer. Second most is a Keurig coffee maker that I really want, but if I don't get it, I will buy it myself. Most are items in the $30-50 range.
I think that if you really love those things you should keep them on your registry. Most people don't really care what they're buying, they just have a budget in mind and choose something around that price. And most of my parents friends went straight for the expensive traditional items like the kitchenaid mixer and expensive cookware.
Also, at least in my experience, some people choose to do group gifts. No one's obligated to purchase things off your registry, so you might as well put what you want.
Most people understand that you get a discount on anything on your registry after your wedding at a lot of stores. They know it's not you demanding that they get these things for you. If they're the kind of people who will find a registry offensive, they'll give you money. More often I'm upset when there's too few options on a registry.
I don't think you need to feel greedy, because some of your guests are looking to spend a good geal of money on a gift for you.
All I would say is make sure you really want the expensive items you put on your registry. I get that the $200 garbage can may be really awesome, but do you really want that expensive of a garbage can as opposed to a pretty serving platter you will have forever? You aren't going to get all the pricey items, so you may want to remove some to direct guests to what you want the most.
I feel this way, too.
We have a kitchenaid mixer on our registry, and maybe 5-6 things that are around $100-120. Everything else is in the $20-50 range (except a few cheapy kitchen gadgets that are $5), but I just feel bad asking for anything over $100!!
I just try to think: could someone with a $25-30 budget buy me something that would be a full gift (i.e. not ONE plate, because most people would feel bad showing up to a shower with a single plate)? Most of my items fall in that category, so I don't feel so bad. That's my logic, anyway lol.
I know what you mean. We don't need a lot because we live together, so we registered for things we wouldn't buy ourselves. And if someone doesn't want to buy us something from our registry, hopefully they'll take the hint and get us cash!
@MissTaken: haha we would! I think we have the trashcan you are talking about. lol But I totally felt the same way about our registry, mostly because we don't need anything, so it's just stuff that would be cool to have or so completely expensive that we wouldn't buy it ourselves (fancy dyson vacuum?!)... In the end I don't really care because I'm not expecting anyone to buy gifts, if they do great, if they buy something off the registry great, if they don't give us a gift... that's great too. Just think of it as a guide for people to see what you like instead of a "to buy" list. :)
I think if you want it - you should keep it on - making sure you have a wide range of prices for things you want.
@MissTaken: my cousin put a playstation on theirs. i thought it was funny.
you can put whatever you want on your registry. it's your guests' choice on what they want to buy you.
I don't think you've gotten nuts.... We registered for some pricey items... I think the cheapest on there was a set of mixing bowls for around 50. Most items were in the 200-300 range and we even had a 600 dollar grill on there. I put things on there mostly so that we could use the completion discount since my culture usually gifts cash. My aunt ended up buying us the grill and to our surprise, some of my friends got together and bought the high priced items for us. Shocking thing was that the only thing I had to buy on our own at Williams Sonoma afterwards was the grill cover; aside from that, we got everything we registered for. Our china was completely overlooked at Crate and Barrel but I think it was because we didn't really let people know that we were registered at either location. I'm a huge cook and foodie so my family and friends probably guessed that I was registered at WS (i used to work there in college) and that's how they found the registry since we didn't have it listed online.
$120 sheets aren't exactly expensive sheets IMO. Leave the stuff on there and maybe supplement with a few less expensive things too.
My registery currently consists of 4 things: a $25 can opener, a $30 pair of meat scissors, a Dyson vacumn and a blender. That's all we could come up with that we need or want. lol
I think some registry items are ridiculous, and people DO feel you are being greedy by adding some outrageous and overly expensive things to them. They might not say anything TO you but they are certainly saying them about you.
The best way to look at the things you'd like to register for is to decide if it were you looking at it, what items and price are YOU willing to spend for someone else. If you typically spend $30.-40., those are the price ranges you should keep your registry items at or close to, I think.
I find it annoying when people register for things they wouldn't spend the money on for themselves, but expect their guests to do it for them.
@smyley: that's a really good point. DH and I gift at least $200 for friends and for close friends that dollar amount goes up. I guess since in our circles, we usually gift at least 100 per person, it made sense for us to be registering in the 200-300 range. We actually had people who selected multiple items to give us.
I'm an OCD accountant, so I actually have a spreadsheet of all my registry items, LOL. We have a total of 154 items, totalling $3,510.67. 23 items have already been purchased, by us using gift cards, and for Christmas by others. Of the remaining 131, the total is $2,887.90. 7 items are $100 and up. 7 items are $50 to $100. 22 items are $25 to $50. 95 items are under $25. The average price per item is $22.05.
All of my casual dishes are open stock, so that takes care of alot of the small items.
@smyley: "I find it annoying when people register for things they wouldn't spend the money on for themselves, but expect their guests to do it for them."
Seriously? If we wanted to buy it for ourselves, we would! What's the point of a registry then... it's stuff that you really want! And when else in your life do you get to hold a scanner and request your dream items for your wedding day gifts?
Hell yes I would like one of my FI's parent's rich friends get the $200 trash can because we could NEVER, but we really want it! That's the WHOLE POINT lol.
I understand registering for a whole range of prices to appeal to everyone, but what annoys ME is when people register for cheap junk that they can buy themselves. I don't want to show up to the shower with a toilet scrubber and a dish rag, lol. I'd rather get them that vase. Or trashcan. Lol.
@MissTaken: Honestly, if you'd rather spend more that's awesome. BUT, to be courteous to guests who may be having financial troubles and are not able to spend tons of money on a $200 trashcan, you need to include items at all pricepoints. That "cheap junk" is something that the couple wants.
I think that a good registry has wants and needs on it. Some people will want to buy useful gifts and some will want to buy frivolous stuff. The main thing about a registry is just to have options. If you don't have anything you want to register for, then don't or do a honeymoon registry. A registry is not required.
I have a real difficulty in thinking what to "ask" for the gifts. Me and my fiance are together for 10 years, 9 years living together. So actually we have everything we really need at home. Honestly i would rather take 10 dollars and a nice card, than another water boiler hehe
But back to your subject. I think you have all the right to put things you would love to have on your wish list. I don't know how it works where you live, but here you can ask for help to get a wedding trip or any other bigger present as well. So basicly you are asking for money in a nice way, but so that each guest can decide himself/herself how much they want and can give you. It might feel rude or tacky, but for couples that have allready lived together so long and builded a house together, it is hard to think of small things to want.
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I was just reviewing the items on our registry, and I feel like we may have gone a little nuts. $120 sheets? $80 vase? $200 Nambe platter? $200 trash can? A Turkey jerkey maker?!
I feel like my family is going to look at it and think we're greedy rascals. The stuff we registered for is stuff we legitimately need, little stuff we're upgrading, and these big ticket DREAM items that we'd never in our right minds pay for ourselves.
But I still feel greedy :( I think I'm going to take off some of the ridiculous Nambe serving stuff. It's just so cool looking though!