Feeling Guilty

posted 3 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
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7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@lovebirds0602:  I guess it depends on if all the people who will be travelling now have to travel even farther to get to where you want your wedding, but honestly if you really want your wedding in NC, I say go for it. Those that can and want to be there will find a way to make it work. Those that feel they won’t be able to make it due to distance or financial reasons will bow out, and if you are ok with that, I say have it where you really want it.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - Creek club at ion, SC

I found that as long as I gave people lots and lots of notice in advance they were fine. Some people need time to save and plan. I would check with your “absolutely have to be there” people first by letting them know. However, be firm – some people will try and change your location to fit their needs.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

My sister got married where she lives instead of “back home” and my entire family was there. Tons of people we didn’t think that would drive 10 hours to be there made it. You never know until you ask, so put out a few feelers to your VIPs and see what they think about it.

If they have to travel either way, it probably won’t influence their decision.

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Have it where you want to have it. It’s not like you’re having it in Bali (not that there’s anything wrong with that, just as a matter of perspective). It’s one state over. People can drive. Just find a good, cheap hotel to get a block at. These days it’s very common to travel for wedding. People move more than they use to, so people aren’t all in the same place when they get married. Nothing wrong with that. Give people lots of notice. And they can figure it out.

Post # 7
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Helper bee

I think that’s fine! Asheville is gorgeous, and there are a lot of hotels in the area that are affordable. If they would have to travel regardless, then I don’t think there’s a problem. Given that they are all around the state, nobody should have more than a 5-6 hour drive which is reasonable for those who are close to you, and I’m assuming everyone is since it’s a small wedding.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

Asheville is going to be lovely in September. There is a lot of things to see and do in Asheville and hotel prices aren’t that bad. If you have it there, people can drive up that day and then drive back down the next day. It’s no big deal IMO. It’s not like you’re asking them to go to China or something like that.

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

@lovebirds0602:  I also felt guilty asking people to travel! We also had 50 guests, spread from Maine, Long Island, Vermont, Massachusetts, Chicago, and Upstate NY.

So aside from DH’s parents/sister, EVERYONE had to travel! No matter what location we picked, everyone would have had to travel anyway.

I was worried, but all of our guests TOTALLY understood. So definitely don’t feel bad!

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

When you said destination, I was expecting someplace in the Carribean that would cost your guests $1,500+. Something driveable usually isn’t an issue- do it!

 

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