Feeling Guilty…

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
7282 posts
Busy Beekeeper

@renwoman:  I think it is good that you feel this way. It shows that you are a grounded person who respects their parents and money and that you appreciate what a great gift this is. It would be weird in my opinion if you didn’t feel these things.

Post # 4
296 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@renwoman:  I’m 27 and my Fi is 28, and we had originally planned to pay for our wedding ourselves.  My dad and his parents are INSISTING on at least splitting the cost of the reception (if they hadtheir way they would pay for everything). I also feel guilty because our parents are 10 years away from retirement, and they should be saving their money, but my dad told me he’s been putting money away in a secret wedding account for me ever since he and my mum got divorced (she got almost everything in the settlement).

So to answer your question, similar situation, we’re slightly younger but I feel weird and guilty because we’re quite a bit older than most first time marriages in our area/social circle.

Post # 5
470 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I think feeling this way just means you have a string ethic and are a good person. If guilt is the only negative feeling you’re having, then let them. It’s a wonderful gesture, and you deserve it.

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