Post # 1
Some of you might remember that I had to have a colposcopy done. Well, as my dr said, the good news is that there isn’t anything in my cervix yet, but the cells elsewhere are high risk, aggressive, cancerous cell. So, they aren’t cancer yet, but will turn into it. She has started talking different treatment options for me, and is trying to get everything taken care of and me all healed before our wedding. She is ruling out some options because we want to have kids. But I am so scared that after all this is done, we won’t be able too. My Fiance is being very supportive and tells me that he wants me more than anything else, even if we can’t have kids together. I have a toddler, and he says we already have one, but I want to have his kids. I feel guilty becuase it isn’t fair to him. He shouldn’t have to miss out on having his own kids because of me. I just am overwhelmed and upset and hate sitting around and waiting and wondering. Sorry, I just needed to vent a little.
Post # 3
@Rosie Girl, just take things one at a time. The most important thing is for you to stay healthy. Once that’s handled, then you guys can talk more about the kids issue. It sounds like you have a great guy. And even if you aren’t able to have any biological children together, you could always look into adopting.
Post # 4
You need to take care of your health first. It sounds like your Fiance understands this and you need to stop beating yourself up over it. If the doctors need to do something in order to keep you from getting sick or dying, you might need to do that. I don’t think he would want to have a baby with you and then end up losing you prematurely due to cancer that could have been prevented. There are other ways to have babies if you can’t carry them yourself.
Post # 5
I am sorry to hear that. I have been in remission from cancer for 5 years, I am now 26 yrs old. I underwent chemo, radiation and surgery for years…it really really sucks. My point is this–is there anything you can do to have your eggs frozen so just in case something goes wrong, you can try a different method ie, surrogate, etc
sounds like your soon to be hubby is a great guy—and to be honest, your reaction of guilt is completely normal. I have no idea with all my treatments if i will ever be able to have kids, and i feel guilty/sad about it sometimes. the only thing you can do is do EXACTLY what your doctor tells you…but look into your options before you do any type of treatment.