feeling guilty about former roommate's relationship…

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
Member
1287 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@MissB0727:  I think you are not selfish for having these THOUGHTS, but rather human.  We have all thought of scenarios that may benefit us, but in doing so, may set someone or something back. Obviously, you would want to move in with your FI faster.  Obviously the quickest way for you to do that would be if your friend moved back into the duplex.  Neither of this means you do not wish for happiness in your friend’s life!!

If you vocalized these thoughts to anyone, then you come across as selfish.  Just keep it to yourself…always 🙂

 

Post # 5
Member
744 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@MissB0727:  I don’t think you are selfish.  If N had told you before the signing of the lease that she was moving out then all three of you could have made different decisions that would benefitted you financially and personally.  She is the selfish one for sticking you two with the lease.

 

And, the quicker her bad relationship fails the quicker she may be able to get into a good positive relationship.

Post # 6
Hostess
3787 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Eh. Definitely don’t do anything to break them up, but every human being capable of logical thought can figure out when a particular situation would be conveninet for them – even if it’s at the expense of others. Don’t feel bad that you realize that, but don’t do anything to “help it along” because that would be a bit unethical.

Honestly though, it sounds like a guy is a jerk and doesn’t treat her well. Hopefully she continues to put the pieces together and moves out!

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