(Closed) Feeling guilty about registry

posted 5 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
1478 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - Creek club at ion, SC

I would add the option of vouchers to the registry so guests can choose to contribute towards a gift. Dont worry about the price too much, people know bride and groom want good things they wouldnt normally buy themselves

Post # 4
3625 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We were/are in your shoes where we have some older and not-so-great items from when we first moved in together and we used our registry as an opportunity to upgrade some of our things and to get some pricier appliances that we’ve always wanted but didn’t splurge on (e.g. Kitchenaid mixer).

It’s okay if your registry has nicer things on there and keep in mind people don’t have to shop from your registry. They always have the option of giving you cash or gift cards. Further, people don’t have to get you the whole set of something; for example, they can gift you 4 of 8 wine glasses. It’s more important to put things on there that you really want and love and let your guests decide what to do from there. I would rather get someone a nice pot that $100 that will last them forever rather than a cheap $20 pot that they replace in 2 years.

Lastly, if it’s really that high, people can always go in on a gift together. I’ve done that with coworkers before.

Post # 5
1880 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

What are the price points though? I don’t have much under $50, and the ~$50ish things usually get bought two to four in a single gift, so they’re going much faster than we expected.

Post # 6
9917 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

We have stuff on our registry that ranges from like $5 to hundreds of dollars.  It’s just a list of things you want and like, not a list of things you EXPECT or DEMAND.  

Post # 8
1022 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@lazy:  I think so long as not everything is over $50 you are okay. 🙂

Post # 9
207 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@leecy87:  Yep, vouchers are a good idea

Post # 10
610 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@lazy:  Sounds like you and I are in the EXACT same situation… I was amazed at how quickly the registry added up. We’re mostly “upgrading” too, so most of our items are in the $50-$250 range.

I think people will understand, and if they can’t afford anything on your registry they’ll probably give a gift card or cash. 

Post # 11
81 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’m so glad I found this post. I am going through the same feelings about our registry too! It’s all stuff that would be nice to have, since our house is full of what I like to call “single people stuff”…the stuff that gets passed to the single friends when someone gets married. Nice to have, but not necessarily what we need.

What we really NEED is money to repair/upgrade some things in our townhouse so we can sell it. I wish I knew a nice way to ask for money!

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