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feeling guilty coworkers not invited

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    di5308    January 1, 2000  

    I am feeling guilty because my coworkers at my job are not invited to my wedding. I was engaged for nearly 8 months while I was at my last job. I started at my new job in August. Invites went out about two weeks ago. I didn't invite my coworkers because I'm not that close with them, we are on a super budget, and on top of that, I don't think they'd fit in well with the guest list and think they'd feel awkward. But they ask me about wedding planning a lot and now that invites are out i am feeling guilty.

     
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    Jessica22580    April 3, 2010   Charlotte, NC but Wedding is in NYC

    Don't feel bad you hardly know them. I'm sure they are not expecting an invite.

     
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    Gemstone    July 2011   Cincinnati

    Don't worry. You haven't known them very long; no one can feel entitled to an invite. The fact that they are asking about your wedding shows that they care about YOU and not just an invite to a party. Looks like there's the potential for making friends down the road?

    Unfortunately, we can never invite EVERYONE to our weddings. So don't feel guilty. People understand!

     
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    Juliemd414    7/25/09   STL

    Seriously don't feel bad...  I had to do the same thing.  They understood.  I would still discuss the wedding with them (only when they asked) and just throw in "yeah, its just going to be a small FAMILY wedding"... they got the picture as too why i didn't invite anyone from work...

    Im sure they will understand.... especially since your probably not really close with anyone from work yet.  

     
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    thisismeAXiD    April 2013   NE Wisconsin

    I know I'll feel the same when I send out my wedding invites. And I've been at my job since June, but I don't think I'll send out invites to co-workers just so it's not awkward when some get one adn others don't.

     
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    robinlinz    April 2011  

    I am feeling the same way!

    I started a new job a couple months before I got engaged, so all of my co-workers ask about my wedding planning constantly, and are super excited for me, but I am on a tight budget, and I'm only inviting family and VERY close friends. I work with almost ALL girls, so if I were to invite some but not others, I think it would cause a lot of stress and jealousy in the workplace.

    I'm not letting it get to me, because most people are very understanding. If any of them ask, I have been explaining this to them, and even though I would love for them to be there, I just can't afford to invite EVERYONE.

    As of right now, I will be having a small open-invitation-for-coworkers get together after the wedding to celebrate with them!

     
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    hopewell    July 31, 2010   Baltimore, Maryland

    Would you feel bad if you weren't invited to their weddings?  That's the criteria I use all the time.  And definitely you should make sure you don't talk too much about the wedding planning, but if they're asking they might just like to hear about it without expecting anything.  I know I tend to find that kind of thing interesting, without needing to be at the event. 

     

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