(Closed) Feeling Guilty for breaking up after calling off wedding

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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539 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’m sorry you are going through this. I’m also sorry that I don’t know yor story, so Im sorry if I’m missing something. 

. Try to keep in mind that if your heart wasnt in it, then it was better for both of you long term to call it off. breakups always suck, but if its for the best… Well then it’s for the best. You both have the opportunity to find something that fits your lives better, and ultimately that is the goal.

Post # 4
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79 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@calichamps4:  hi….i am also going through a break up too. My former fiance called off the wedding just two weeks ago. It was in part because he was also wishy washy at first but then i came to realize how he really felt. It made sense to me why he was not able to set a date. We were set to marry June 15. I should have known better and left too…but i couldnt and waited for him to call it off. I am also hurt and confuse…I have been with him for 9 years….i know exactly how you are feeling…hang in there. Things will get better…remember that you deserve so much better…we both deserve so much better. A guy that cant decide whether they choose us or not…is not deserving of us. I also feel like i lost my best friend. Everyday i miss him. Everyday i wish i could talk to him and be with him. But then i think of all the mean things he said and i realize that i cant…i have to learn to love myself a little more…you will get through this. Dont feel bad…it was his lost at the end of the day…please message me if you need to talk….i know how difficult it may be sometimes to dael with this…

Post # 5
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1470 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@calichamps4:  you’re doing the right thing. How could you live with all the insanity he was putting you through? If he doesn’t get help for his anxiety I don’t see how you could trust him to be there for you, at the wedding and decades from now.

Post # 6
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293 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I was on the receiving end of the break up when FH ended our engagement. I definitely was hurt and pissed especially since I did absolutely nothing and it was all him. But in your case if he was being wishy washy I probably would have ended it too. My last BF was wishy washy and I ended it with no guilt because I knew what I wanted and didn’t want him holding me back. 

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