(Closed) Feeling guilty/trying to hide disappointment when I think he might propose…

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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314 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013 - Makena Cove

*Hugs* For one: I’m jealous you got a mixer! And 2: I can totally understand where you’re coming from. If that had been me I probably wouldn’t have been able to contain my disappointment. Don’t be embarrassed you feel this way, we all have our moments. At least you know it’s coming, and he acknowledged that he could have proposed for Christmas. Also you weren’t let down on Christmas morning and still have something to look forward to next year, I think that’s a bonus!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I totally understand how you are feeling. My Dh and I were friends for years, and I was in love with him. When we finally started dating, I knew we would be together forever. After 6 months, he was sent to Texas to prepare for a 12 month deployment. I visited him for abour 5 days (2 travelling, 3 whole days) over Christmas. I seriously thought believed thathe would propose AT LEAST twice….maybe 3 times.

1)While in hotel room, making corned beef and cabbage for our Christmas dinner. We stayed in ALL DAY in our jammies and watched movies. At one point he talked about ho great it was that we did this, he wishes he never had to leave blah blah blah and sentimental (which is not his way usually)….and nothing.

2)He insisted on going to a SUPER fancy dinner before he left town. We had a heart to heart that night about what we would do when he came home etc….and still nothing.

3) The worst. We went to the zoo. Walked around, looking at animals. Took silly pictures. Then we got to the tiger exhibit. And he says to me (after being lovey-dovey all day) “remember in Rocky when he proposes to Adrian in front of the tiger cage?” And I say (ya know…all casual and nonchalant..) “not really, I’ve never seen it” And HE says “REALLY?!?! I CAN”T believe you have NEVER seen Rocky?!?! Anyway, he proposes to her in front of a tiger cage. It’s so stupid” and then LAUGHS!!! REALLY, DH!?!?! Personally, I love the zoo. I love animals. If he had proposed to me in front of that damn tiger cage, it would have meant to world to me. But he didn’t. And I felt dumb.

When he came home it was worse. Every time we went out, or I woke up with him in bed, or we fell alseep talking about our future together…I thought it would be it. But it wasn’t. Not until he thought it was the perfect time.

It’s okay to be disappointed. But remember, no matter how many times you talk to your So about being engaged, it is still a scary thign to do. be patient, you time will come 🙂

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2013

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