Post # 1
Hi bees. Fiance proposed with a ring that was pretty awful. The “diamonds” did not shine AT ALL and they were yellow/brown. So we got a simple solitaire online in a rush because I had to have a ring. I like it, but I don’t love it. It is plain and small. Now, his family is offering up a diamond that I would like to get reset, but I’m having guilt. Fiance is totally ok with it, and even suggested it. But I still feel bad. There has been so much drama over the ring, but I want something with more bling. We can afford it, but like I said, I feel soooo guilty.
Post # 3
If your Fiance is okay with it and you can afford it, don’t feel bad. Go get something you love so the ring drama can end!
Post # 4
ERnurse, We are in the same situation, ive had three rings so far, the one proposed with, fake and didnt fit, the second one also fake was a fill in until we got the real one, he came back from afganistan with a beautiful one carat, but its not what I wanted. we have talked about for over a year now and have decided to get the one I wanted. But now we have made that decision I feel soooo guilty about being such a spoil brat! but he feels guilty for not getting me what I wanted so I think if we get it we would both feel better in the end!
Post # 5
If anyone is going to feel guilty about new rings, it should be me. Here is my breakdown of erings history. I have let go of all of the guilt. The fact is, it took me a while to figure out what I wanted and that is okay. I love my ring now and that is a happy ending. I wish the same for you.
When I got engaged I wanted a princess cut solitaire set kite shaped. Before I go on I need to add that my husband is extremely generous and PATIENT. I have changed my mind so many times. I have been married or engaged to my husband for 7.5 years and here is the break down of the e-rings I have had:
1. Original kite set princess solitaire with contoured cathedral setting
2. Split shank vintage looking ring with same princess diamond
3. Round diamond halo engagement ring
4. Round diamond solitaire in the original coutoured cathedral setting
5. Current (and I believe final ring)…round solitaire in a tiffany setting.
All of this just shows that it is okay to change your mind. My motto is “I don’t care if the ring changes as long as the man who gave it to me doesn’t.”
Post # 6
Don’t feel bad if you guys both agree about it. Maybe you can sell the other ring, or have it set into a necklace or something.
Post # 7
If he suggested it, and is fine with it, you have NO reason to feel guilty! Now go forth and re-set that stone so we can all see pics!! 🙂