Feeling homesick planning my wedding from so far away.

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’ve definitely been feeling this way lately. Ever since FI and I bought a house, but I can’t live there because I’m away at school. This semester has been the worst by far, but thankfully the last! FI just left today from a visit and it made me so sad. We’ve been long distance for most of the past 3 years and it has never gotten easier saying goodbye! It has been difficult trying to coordinate everything and plan things from far away too. It’s been rough and I’ve had a countdown on my phone to graduation for months lol Only 10 more weeks until this dreaded long distance is over!!! I hope it gets better soon for both of us. Just remember the light at the end of this long, miserable tunnel! 

Post # 4
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3280 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

crackktheskyy:  Aw, I’m sorry to hear that. Just try to look at it as a small little piece of the rest of your lives together. Yes, the next few years will be rough but in the grand scheme of things it’ll be nothing and hopefully fly by! I hope you feel better today too!

Post # 5
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1103 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Oh yes, our wedding is in 7 months, and it’s 3000 miles away back “home”.  I’m feeling sad that I have to fly in just to go dress shopping with my Mom, that I don’t get to see everyone leading up to it, and that we have no friends here yet.  

What city are you going to school for and what?

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

We’re planning a wedding in my FI’s hometown, Atlanta Georgia…all while living in South Korea. It’s been a very trying and emotional experience. It’s hard not being able to have the same experience and support while putting this all together. Everything has been done through email and I haven’t even seen our venue. We’re also pretty heartbroken about not being able to have any of our friends from Korea make it for the wedding. The girls that I would love to have as my BMs and MOH live here and can’t afford a ticket back.

It’s all very frustrating.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I’m in a very very similar situation except I do live with my fiance.  I met him while going to graduate school.  I love my fiance (obviously) and I love his family, but I have had a hard time connecting with the city and haven’t really made any friends, and I miss my family terribily.  Usually when I’m home I will tell only 1 or 2 close friends, because I get stressed out trying to see EVERYONE and I want to spend a lot of time with my family.  It is definitely hard having to fly home to try on dresses, and plan the wedding, and it makes it a lot more stressful.  I don’t know that the wedding planning itself makes me homesick, but it does take away from quality non-wedding planning family time when I’m home and I miss it.  

I lived here for almost 2 years before meeting my fiance, and it was really super lonely.  When I felt lonely I decided to do something I wouldn’t normally do.   As a shy person, I wouldn’t normally ask a group of colleagues out for dinner or lunch.  Just that human interaction helped a lot.  And then one of those doing something I wouldn’t normally do lead me to meet my fiance 🙂 He definitely makes things a lot better, but I still have a hard time living in a place I don’t like, even if it is with someone I really really love. Don’t expect your marriage to be the fix all.  It definitely will help, but when he is at work or school or busy doing something else you are still going to miss your family and not feel like you have many people to talk to.  

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