Feeling insecure about our daytime wedding reception (vent)

posted 3 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
42101 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Mode:  We had a daytime wedding for my first marriage. It wasn’t for any financial reasons. My Dad was an alcoholic and I didn’t wnat to have to deal with him getting drunk and loud and making a fool of himself.

People had a wonderful time. We didn’t plan for dancing at all. We had soft music playing in the background. By the time you have a cocktail hour, serve your meal, do the traditions that you want- eg toasts, speeches, bouquet toss etc much of your time will be gone.

People love to chat and socialize, so I wouldn’t have any concern at all about our guests having a good time.

As far as the OOT’s staying in a hotel or not, this is entirely their decision. You have mde it possible for them to come and go in the same day if they choose to do so, and that is the best you can do. It would not have been a possibility at all if you had a traditional evening reception. Let these worries go. These people are adults and can be responsible for whatever choices they make.

Post # 4
2884 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

i think its the best decision, although you’re right dancing and drinking would be limited during the daytime. i think itll be beautiful regardless

you don’t need a formal afetr party…something as simple as “we’ll be having drinks at X bar at X pm if you’d like to join”. could ask bar to seperate small area for you. dont need to pay or provide anything at it

BUT…by the time youve finished the wedding and photos etc you might not want a late night. its going to be a long tiring day with hair/makeup etc

Post # 5
1157 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@Mode:  Focus on the afterparty – that’s what we’re doing!!  Additionally, ours is going to be outside on a bright sunny patio in Florida during the same time frame of day.  I’m so excited for the afterparty!  Ask your MOH and Best Man to organize it.  Make sure it’s understood that it’s voluntary and you guys are not covering it.  Barhopping in a wedding dress is like the best thing I can imagine.

Post # 6
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Mode:  I had a daytime wedding! And it was AMAZING!

Our ceremony started at 10:30, and our reception ended at 3:30!

Our guests LOVED it, and we saved 50% of JUST food (same meal as the dinner, just 50% cheaper!), and we saved a TON by not having an open bar–We had unlimited Mimosas, and two guests got glasses of wine.

Side note: I would get rid of the full bar and do wine, beer and Mimosas–that’s the only thing people wanted at our wedding!

Post # 7
245 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I had a daytime wedding and LOVED it!! ( but we love brunch anyway)  I was worried people wouldn’t dance — but everyone did! We had a great band and it was so much fun.  And we were able to have an after party that night for people who stayed around. — You can plan that / rent a space or just say ” hey lets all meet at XYZ!”  I have photos somewhere on WeddingBee – check my post history 🙂


We had a mimosa and bloody mary station, as well as wine, beer and 2 mixed drinks. That was plenty and saved money


I also went to a lunch wedding at a venue that sounds like yours in Jersey City called the Liberty House that was STUNNING! 


Everyone danced… everyone enjoyed the view… and all of the young people went to the after party! 🙂

Post # 8
852 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

One of my best friends had the most amazing daytime wedding. She married at midday then we went to a gold course in the afternoon and had afternoon tea. With fancy sandwiches, cakes etc. (which is suprisigly filling and felt like a full meal) it was vintage in style and really beautiful. No dancing (unless people wanted to go to an after party) but a wonderful celebration of marriage.

Post # 10
245 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@Mode:  If everyone is staying at the same hotel… just go to that hotel bar! let them know and they are usually accomodating and you can bring an ipod or something…. then it will just be your friends and family!  Or pick a dive bar you guys go to and let them know… we had our after party start at 7:30   before more people “go out” so it was just us until 10 pm and we got to control the music etc. and by the time random people got there My husband and I had already left 🙂


Dancing was SO important to me- ( I was a dance major and am a dance teacher!)  and that was my biggest worry.  But if the music is good and YOU dance – then everyone else wil dance too.  


We def. decided orig. on a day wedding to save money  but looking back we got double the celebration with the afterparty and I would do it again in a heartbeat

Post # 11
1002 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@Mode I think a day time wedding sounds nice!  Also, people in NYC love brunch and if there is good music and drinks you bet I will be up dancing!  A celebration is a celebration no matter what time!

Also, I think we are getting married at venues close to each other!

Post # 13
2813 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

We had a daytime wedding at the Brooklyn Botanic Gardens and everyone had a blast. We hired DJ Gaza, who was so amazing that everyone couldn’t help but dance, and our friends and family have never met an open bar they didn’t love. The only minor bummer was that our ceremony was not as heavily attended as the reception, but the important folks were there… Honestly, I’d do it again in a heartbeat. I posted some pictures on WB too, so check in my past posts for pictures!

Post # 14
7207 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Lbward6:  A celebration is a celebration no matter what time!

I agree with this. I’m a dancing fool and I’ll do it whenever, where ever so if you have a dancing crowd they will not let you down. Besides people will feed off your energy, so dance away.

Post # 15
3557 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I’m having a daytime wedding, but my family is the opposite of yours, nobody dances. As our favor we have decks of cards so people can visit and play games at our reception. We also plan on providing lawn games.

Post # 16
357 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I love day drinking – so as long as there’s yummy food and drinks, I’d be set! If you’re worried about it being too early, maybe push back an hour, start at 11 and do the reception 12-5? You’ll still be up early, though! But you’ll probably be fine on all the adrenaline!

If you can, maybe you can still block hotel rooms somewhere so if guests want to stay the night they could get a room at a discount? I don’t know if this is as easy in Manhattan as other places.

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