Post # 1
Okay bees I need a bit of a pick-me-up.
2 months ago I was hating the job I was in (retail) and ready to start my career. My FI saw just how much it bogged me down and urged me to quit. Financially we were okay. After some talking and convincing (on his end) I finally did it. I quit.
Not to sound oblivious to the current economic problems, but I thought that with my degree I would be able to find some sort of decent office work that would pay me more than $8/hr. Well, as I mentioned, its been two months.
FI has a WONDERFUL job. In fact, he’s been spear-heading a new program that is vital for their company to grow– they sent him to Austin a few weeks ago for training, and shortly after the wedding he’s off the Vegas for a conference on the program. Needless to say, he’s making more than my mother did when I was growing up. I am so so so proud of him and its just so cool how happy he is about it all— he likes going to work because he feels vital!
But, I digress– although I shouldn’t feel guilty, I do. I sit here day in and out job hunting and there is nothing to show for it. I’ve been on three interviews (two of which were totally not what was advertized) and I feel like I’m hitting a dead end. I don’t go out and spend any money because I just feel wrong about it– yes I’m trying my hardest but its hard to justify going out for coffee with a girlfriend when you’re not making any money.
Anyhow, I feel terrible that I am both jealous (but proud, dont forget that) about his success (can’t I get some too? After all, I went to school, got great grades and he never did) and guilty.
I just need some support bees. I’m feeling really down. =[
Post # 3
I’m sorry you’re feeling that way. No advice but we can commiserate. I still have my job for now but will be out of it soon and I can’t see how this one will end well.
My husband on the other hand is really thriving here so I have been feeling a bit off as well, especially in comparison.
Not sure what the solution is except not to take it out on them and try to focus on what can be done while things aren’t going well. I keep saying that but it is really distracting looking for a job but I’ve been trying to take the opportunity to really get in shape and cook more and stuff like that. Put aside specific job looking hours so it doestn’ become all consuming.
Post # 4
It feels nice knowing that I’m not alone in this.
I just don’t want to feel like I’m the worst FI ever because as proud as I am over his success, I want my own very very badly. I am itching to get back to work!
Post # 5
Yeah, I’m itching to be satisfied in my job again but I’ve noticed that my hubs doesn’t mind the road bumps it’s more my down attitude that gets him down. So I’ve tried to have moments of voicing frustration (I can’t not or I’d burst) but also sort of tryigin to make attempts at making the most of it though it’s really hard becaue I always feel like I should be doing something or looking for a job I like.
Post # 6
This is so comforting!!
I know my fi feels the same way, I try not to mention it all the time because when I do I know he feels bad that I feel down and it just makes me feel worse! He is exceedingly proud of me (he says 😉 ) I’m just trying to feel it in myself. I’m not depressed, my work life is just depressing! SOmeday soon I hope..
Post # 7
You’re *definitely* not alone in this. In this economy there are so many people who are in the same place as you are, and I know it’s hard, but you should definitely count your blessings that your fiance is currently employed, has good job security, and is making plenty of money. Every day on the radio I hear another sad story of another person who has been out of work for ages and is struggling with the depression and feelings of inadequacy that comes along with that. My fiance was unemployed for 6 months this fall, after we moved cross country for *my* new job. I know that was really hard on him… especially being the man in the relationship and wanting to fulfill the “normal” male role of providing for his woman.
Just keep your head up, and keep looking for work. Is there any interesting volunteering that you could do while you search? …just to give you something to do outside of the house…
Remember, YOU ARE NOT ALONE 🙂
Post # 8
1. Get 2nd/3rd opinions on your resume and cover letters. These opinions need to be from professionals who have experience hiring.
2. Sign up with a few staffing agencies that correlate with what you want. Even if you only get temp/contract work out of it, those jobs can lead to full time positions and they are good resume builders.
3. Utilize your alumni networks and/or college career services. These places are good for meeting people in your industry who can give you tips on companies to be looking at and tricks for impressing people when you interview/apply.
4. Get a part time job or sign up for volunteer work. This will serve two purposes– make you not feel so bad about being home all the time, and keeping busy makes potential employers see that you haven’t been doing nothing since your last job.
5. Stay positive! It’ll take time, but in the end it’ll all come together. So many people are in your exact same shoes.