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    J is a dreamer. I know that, but sometimes it's hard for me to not get excited about the stuff that he dreams about.

    We talked about going to Ireland for the past 3 months, since neither of us has been there and we both want to go -- and I was getting really excited about it!

    Now today he comes out with not wanting to fly somewhere and spend our time flying instead of being somewhere, and suggests we rent a car and drive 13 hours from Michigan to Boston. And then drive down the coast back to DC where we live, stopping places along the way. And that can be our honeymoon.

    Am I totally selfish for thinking that Ireland is a way better honeymoon than a roadtrip along the Atlantic? I kind of want to cry a little bit... :(

     
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    MissAsB    June 6, 2009   Married in CO, Living in AL

    Aww I'm sorry.  Do the two of you have limited time off or something?  A flight to Ireland from the Atlantic coast probably would only take up a day's travel each way so it wouldn't really have much of an effect on the honeymoon really.

     
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    ccranetobe    August 14, 2010  

    irelands a lot better.. much more dreamy... Is there any reason why he would suggest the big drive part from he doesnt want to fly? I know my FH gets scared at the cost and is always looking at the cheaper option :P

     
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    He's a teacher (middle school) so he only gets 10 sick/vacation days a year - two before the wedding + 5 after would mean he can't really get sick all year. :(

    I've suggested mini mooning but he thinks it sounds cheap.

    I think a road trip sounds cheap!

    We're still discussing....

     
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    MissAsB    June 6, 2009   Married in CO, Living in AL

    Maybe hold off until a time when he has more free time, like in the summer and just do a little trip for now?  My husband and I still haven't gone on a trip since we got married due to time and money constraints.

     
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    trugem    January 2011  

    Maybe you can take a shorter honeymoon some where closer so that you don't have to spend a lot of time flying (3-4 days).

     
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    Hold off until his winter, spring or summer break for the honeymoon! That's what I would do, personally, bc spending 13 hours driving doesn't sound like fun to me...

     
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    I'm glad to hear I'm not the only one who doesn't think road tripping makes for a good honeymoon! I mean, we're not beach people and DO want to go to a city where there'll be stuff to do, but ... driving there!? His explanation was "you + me + reststop = love"

    um........................

    boys are CRAZY!

    I've never had trouble talking him out of something crazy before. He's usually very receptive to logic. Maybe it's because our internet connection wouldn't hold for a phone call today and we had to resort to gchat :( I hate when the internet acts up and affects my life!

     
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    msmonicka    June 19, 2010   Milwaukee, Wisconsin

    I don't think that sounds like a good honeymoon either. I hope you guys can come with something better.

     
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    hoosierbee    August 21, 2010   Bloomington, IN

    Ok, I know everyone else doesn't like the "road trip" idea- but I think it sounds nice because of the time of year. If you are getting married in October, all the leaves will be SO pretty and it will be a beautiful drive! What if you stop at a cute B&B along the way? Then, get to Ireland a little later when he has more time off from school, like winter break or next summer? Have fun whatever you decide!

     
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    @hoosier - that's a thought... not all in one straight shot at least.

    Maybe this could be our minimoon. Like a compromise.

    Still, roadtrip reststop sex on our honeymoon?! What is he thinking??? *sigh*

     
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    charmedlife357    June 3, 2012   Noblesville, In

    I think you guys should go somewhere in the US that you want to visit and have a little honeymoon and then do Ireland when he has more time off. A road trip could be romantic but I think for me it would be a 13 hour fight because I hate being in the car. lol. I guess it just depends on your personality. 

     
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    cvbee    August 13, 2010   canada

    something similar happened to us

    we will wait until one day down the road for the longer trip

    but the first alternative he suggested sounded so lame to me and I was not digging it

    so then I came to terms with the parameters and came up with something I would find romantic that wouldn't take such a long time nor cost too much

     

    I hope you find a new compromise that you will look forward to!

     
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    What'd you guys decide on, CV?

     
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    farmersdaughter    June 26, 2010  

    Definitely be honest with him about how you feel about a road trip. You might be able to come up with some kind of compromise, as others have suggested. 

    As a middle school teacher, does he get summers off? That might be a good time to make your trip happen...

     
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    mmm31911    May 14, 2011  

    Well being biased to Charleston, SC. I think you guys should come down here for your honeymoon. :)

     
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    As far as flying to Ireland, it's really one of the shorter flights in europe. If you fly direct from The east coast (BOS, NY, even DC etc.) it's only about 6-7 hours and AirLingus seems to be having some flight offers now so you could possibly get a good deal on a flight. If you do fly direct, you should fly red eye on the way there and then on the way home, you will be flying backwards so it is only about 2 hours you lose.

    However, if he can't take the time off from work waiting until the summer may be a good alternative. Ireland is cold. I was there over spring break one year and we were sleeping under a heated blanket in March! I can imagine July/August would be much more enjoyable if you are interested in seeing the countryside. Flights and such would be more expensive in the summer though.

    I'm a big fan of not putting off travels because you never know what will come up in the future so if you have the chance, I would say go to Ireland!

     
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    ok, I think I'll make a new post asking for October Minimoon suggestions. :) Thanks for all the advice! If I have some good ideas in my back pocket, I'll be much more prepared for giving J alternatives, rather than just lamely saying, "so you seriously think a ROADTRIP is a good idea?!" over and over, haha. 

     
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    duck    May 13, 2012   new orleans

    maybe you could nicely point out to him that by the time you drive 13 hours to boston, you could have flow to ireland!  

    i agree with some of the above posters, what about waiting until one of this up-coming breaks (summer, thanksgiving, winter) and just do a mini-moon in the mean time...

    i find my fi is much more receptacle when i have a plan all set out, ie i come to him and go "i really want to go to __ this weekend, tickets are only $xx and we can get a room at __ for __, i can book it if you are interested"

    good luck! im sure you guys will be able to find something that fits both your ideas and will have a blast no matter what!

     
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    michelle86    April 17, 2010   Saint Paul, Minnesota

    I'm in a similar situation, but not for lack of time, just lack of planning.  My FI procrastinates on everything and now it's too late to take a real honeymoon right after the wedding.  I'm very dissapointed, but we came up with something that sounds even better.  He's been talking for about a month now about wanting to go to the upcoming olympics in London so we're going to save up and take our big honeymoon then and maybe do a little traveling within Europe.  For now, we're going to either drive somewhere, maybe Colorado, or fly to California for a few days.  That way we still get a trip, either something scenic with a drive, or fun with a flight.

     
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    okay - I'm taking the advice of so many of you, and looking for Mini Moon ideas!

    http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/mini-moon-in-october-help-me-talk-j-out-of-the-roadtrip-honeymoon-idea?replies=1#post-837414

    Any suggestions for us? mmm31911 has one vote for Charleston SC ;)

     
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    loveapril    April 3, 2010  

    I am a teacher too and I go out of country for vacation quite often. When you want to go to another country, you do want at least 10-15 days to truly appreciate the country. 5 days really isn't much to see and get a feel of the country. As for local trips, I wouldn't like 13 hous road trips either, 4-5 hours I think would be reasonable for the 5 days. Is there any museums, parks, local attractions that you've always wanted to go but never got to?

     

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