Post # 1
I know this is a random post. I’ve just been thinking about it the past little while and theres no one else really to tell….
A couple of weeks ago one of my bridesmaids just told me she is pregnant. I am so happy for her, she will be a wonderful mom. Two of my other bridesmaids are currently trying for their first babies, and one already has a 1 year old.
Sometimes I just feel so far behind. I know that everyone does things at their own pace. It’s just kind of a bummer for me because I have rented a hotel and everything for the night before the wedding and thought it would be fun for us to get together before my big day, but deep down I know that when all of these girls come together they will all be sharing their stories of their pregnancy and special moments and as usual, I will feel left out and like my day is not as special. It’s one of the main things each girl talks to me about lately, and when they’re all together they’ll all be very excited to talk pregnancy.
I know they are excited for my wedding, but if you were the last of your friends to get engaged or pregnant you will know how it feels. All that matters is the wedding, then when baby time comes that even trumps their weddings. I’m still on the wedding part. Sigh.
Post # 4
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
Sweetie no rush!!! I know you want to have a kid (so do I, I’m not anti-children) but do you realize how DIFFERENT your life will be? How difficult and exhausting it is to have a baby?
Post # 5
@kookooklock: Hey…. at least you’ll look REALLY good, regardless of your size, standing among them! 🙂
Post # 6
@kookooklock: I think they will be geniunely excited for your wedding. With my group of friends, a whole lot of us married in our 20s, and then there was a gap of a few years, and then about 5 of them married in their early 30s in the space of less than 2 years. I was equally excited for them. Of course I had a closer connection by then with the other young mothers, but it didn’t stop me feeling happy for my friends. And then one married a few years after that – that was a celebration in itself, because I hadn’t been to a non-family wedding in years!
Or to summarise, weddings are always exciting, and life isn’t a race.
Post # 7
That really sucks 🙁 You definitely may have to put up with some pregnant talk time the night before. Who knows, it may be a good distraction from your nerves! But I’m sure the day of EVERYONE will be focused on you.
You may want to mention to one bridesmaid you are closes with that you are worried there might be a lot of pregnancy talk and ask if she can change the subject!
Post # 8
That does suck 🙁 *hugs*
However, I disagree that the conversation would all be about them, pregnancies, and babies the day of your wedding. I’m 99% sure it will all be about you, your wedding, and your upcoming marriage! If they do bring it up, I’d politely change the subject, and I’m sure they’ll get the hint. If you’re really worried, mention it to them (or at least to you MOH)
Post # 9
By the time we get married, my 5 best friends will all have been for between 2.5 and 6 years. At the last wedding, the bride’s parents handed me her bouquet and said “well, you’re the only one left.” I hadn’t even met my SO at that point! While I’m moving into the wedding stage, they’ve already moved to babies. The first one had a baby last October, and the next is due to have her first baby next month. Added to that, they all live within 30 minutes of our hometown. I live on the other side of the country.
So, I guess what I’m saying is that I totally, 100% understand where you’re coming from. Sometimes, it is really tough. But, I know that I would rather have waited to find the right guy and move at a speed that is right for us than try to “keep up” with anyone.
On a positive note, now you can learn from all the good and bad that happened at all of their weddings! Plus, they will know that it is your special day, and while I’m sure there will be some baby talk, there will be a lot more attention on the beautiful bride!
Post # 10
I totally understand feeling this way, my best friend is married with a baby, buying a house and will probably be pregnant with her second when my wedding comes around and here I am with a three year engagement and no baby in sight, which I am fine with, FI and are doing things the way we see fit and want to give ourselves the best future possible but I am still envious of her. BUT I really think you should give your friends more credit and remember that they love you and will be excited for you and will focus on you since that is why they are coming together. If it starts to get to be all about babies, just steer the convo back to the wedding, ask them for advice based on their wedding experiences. Ask them what they are most excited about for the next day and such. I’m sure they will focus on you though, Good luck!!!
Post # 11
I think it might be helpful to think of it not as behind, but having the benefit of so much experience. When you are ready for babies, you will have all these ladies who will be able to help you so much and have gone through this already.
But yea, I remember when all my friends graduated from college before I did and suddenly had nice jobs, new cars, cell phones, etc and it was hard to swallow, even though I knew I’d get here eventually.