- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2011
I know I don’t really post here that often, but I do read posts on here a lot and you always give such great advice. In advance, I’m really sorry if I sound like an insecure teenager but here goes:
I got married in July 2011, and since I got engaged, I’ve noticed that my single friends (especially the ones who were bridesmaids in my wedding), have become closer to each other. It doesn’t bother me that they are friends, but I’ve noticed recently that they will do things together and don’t include me in their plans. This has happened with 3 friends from my hometown (who live in the same city that I work in) and 2 friends from college (who also live in the same city that I work in.) The reason I feel hurt is that whenever I initiate plans with both groups, I always make an effort to include everyone in the group because I don’t want anyone to feel left out.
I know that they aren’t required to include me in everything, because it would be ridiculous for me to demand that they do, because they have their own lives too, but I can’t help feeling left out. I know this may be in my head, but I’m just afraid of losing them as friends. Anyone else ever feel this way? I know I may spend more time with my husband since we are married, but it doesn’t mean that I don’t value my friendships and will always make the time for them.