- 4 years ago
- Wedding: March 2014
I’m from the UK and my FI’s family are from the South and mine are from the North. Me and my FI both live south, this is completely our choice as it suits us both at this stage in our lives. I do however really miss my northern family as I have no family who live south, nor do I have any friends from childhood who have ‘migrated’ here – therefore everyone I know down south are either through my FI or friends I have met through work/higher education in the last 7 years.
When we got engaged we decided to get married north. However, as a result of that I’m starting to feel really detached and left out of the whole wedding process. I picked a venue with my mum but wasn’t there when she booked it, nor when my female family members went to view it. I’m from a very small (and very female dominated!) family and I’m so upset that I can’t share all these special times with them. I visit home every month for a few days (I can’t go anymore because of work commitments) and my mum visits me regularly which is always lovely. I’m sure nearer the time I will be a lot more involved in everything (and take holiday from work so I can stay up longer) but at the moment it barely even feels like the wedding is even happening. I’m obviously not annoyed at my family for meeting up and seeing the venue without me – not in the slightest- I’m just a bit gutted I couldn’t be there with them 🙁 I’m quite practical about marriage in a lot of ways so never thought something like this would upset me but I’ve found myself crying over it today!!
Any other Bee’s have a similar situation? It means a lot for me to get married at ‘home’ but I’m starting to think I could have saved myself upset by just doing it all myself down south (or even just eloping!!!)