Feeling left out (missing family)

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I got married back home and had a similar situation (I live a 3 hour plane ride away).  One thing that really helped was knowing that I was actually making all the decisions…if my mom scoped a place out for me she sent pictures and details but left me to do the actual deciding.  When she would go sign papers for me they would call me on the phone so that I could “be there” for the moment.  But yes, it’s not really the same.

At the same time though, it really helps you remember that the small details matter less–people kept telling me that I was the most relaxed, laid back bride because I couldn’t be bothered with agonizing for weeks over table cloths! Nope, if I had only 1 day in town to make 10 decisions, then dammit I was going to pick and be happy about it whether I analyzed closely or not!  Because I couldn’t sit there perseverating on every little thing, I actually was more sure of my choices and happier with them!

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