(Closed) Feeling like a brat but…

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

it’s totally understandable, i felt the same way whenever he was buying new video games while saving up for my ring, i got worried. it may be unreasonable but totally normal! in the end he bought it fairly quickly and proposed in the first month of the three month timeline he gave me, so just have faith, it will happen in that timeline! 🙂

Post # 4
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Honey bee

He has time! December is still 2 and a half months away. And you don’t know how much money he may have already put back for your ring. Maybe he’s been slowly putting back small amounts of money for a really long time and just hasn’t told you. He’s obviously been planning since at least last December. 

Deeeeep breath. It sounds like he’s got it under control. 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

He might be saving right now, but maybe not telling you. I’m sure you’ll have a great surprise soon when you least expect it- maybe even a romantic proposal over the holidays under a Christmas tree or something? It sounds like he has a plan.

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I think he’s mentioning it less because it’s getting closer, and he wants to “suprise” you. Maybe he’s hoping that you don’t remember what he said about proposing in December……boys will be boys. I’m assuming ya’ll have separate checking accounts? If so, how do you know he hasn’t been putting away $50 bucks every week? 

Post # 8
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700 posts
Busy bee

@Paiger8:  he’s prob already saved enough for the ring, and wants to surprise you. just let him be

Post # 9
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Worker bee

@Paiger8:  Your SO and mine sound like they operate same way. Ive usually always known what my bday gifts were, etc. I’ve been given a timeline of before November so I am getting very antsy as well. We also have separate finances so it’s hard  for me to know how much he is saving, etc. I’m just trying to trust in him. As much as I think I can control the situation, I can’t. And that’s ok. I just have to believe in him.

Also, I think as others have said, that he is talking about it less because he thinks and probably wants to somehow surprise you, still. Hang in there! You’re almost there.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

My SO is doing the exact same thing!

 Right after taking me ring shopping in May he bought himself a PS3 and some games… I was like “seriously?! I know I don’t want an expensive ring but come on!!!!”, of course this was all in my head. He told me we had a deadline of Halloween this year. ok, then he let slip that he was “just waiting on the ring”, and “your ring is being made”. Well I know how long it takes to make a ring, and that amount of time is up!

 🙂 I am so antsy and he won’t say a word about any of it! It makes me crazy!!!! But I do know it is only because he wants to “surprise” me, so he made me pick out a couple of rings, and won’t tell me anything more! I would bet your SO is doing the same thing! He was so excited to share the news, but now he wants to surprise you! Don’t give up, just a little bit longer, and before you know it you’ll be engaged to the man of your dreams!

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

He’s probably saving and trying to surprise you.  This is a little more “big” than a Christmas or birthday present.  Have a little faith and try not to panic about it until you have to (easier said than done, I know!).  

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Decide what you will do in January if you aren’t engaged.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

It sounds like he is trying to not mention it so maybe he does suprise you in the end. If he told you last December that it would be before this december then he has had plenty of time to save! And I know what you mean about him buying expensive things, my SO has bought ( when he was supposed to be saving for my ring) a motorcycle (had to put down 5,000), rims and tires (1,300) and so on. I wanted to KILL him those times but kept remembering it’s his money.

  Oh and we do have joint checking and 2 savings accounts! So I know when he takes money out and everything. Makes me crazy!!! LOL

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

my So stopped talking about everything once he started looking for a ring.. he didnt want anything to slip out in conversation! This could be a good sign.. hopefully your SO is better atbeing quiet than mine is! he keeps letting little things slip! any more and I will not have a surprise!!!

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