(Closed) Feeling like I live in the most expensive area for weddings.

posted 6 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Are you set on getting married in Connecticut?  It is probably more expensive than others places cause, well, it’s Connecticut!  But, despite that, I would keep looking and looking.  You will find something you can afford.  Keep looking and searching.  I found information on a venue when I did a craigslist search for a photographer…so places pop up unexpectedly all the time.  

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@PaisleyMedic:  I’m sorry for you. My fiancee temporarily lived/worked in CT for his job. It takes at least double to live up there as it does down here. I feel like up there you either have it or you don’t, no middle ground. Have you considered having your wedding in a more rural part of the state of NY? Have you looked into having your wedding at a park?

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I agree, CT is so damn expensive and im originally from Boston and I honestly think weddings there are less expensive!  We are having 120 people and we are probably spending close to $32k for the wedding but that includes the open bar my dress photobooth extremely expensive dj gifts rehearsal dinner and all the other extras that you pay for along the way, basically everything.  Its definitely doable for under 25k my friends getting married a month before us and spending $16k for everything for 150 people.  You just have to look around and be willing to sacrafice somethings and no matter waht you do sacrafice your guests probably wouldnt miss it anyways!  Try finding lower costing photography, my photographer has been amazing has done 3 ephoto shoots with us for no extra charge goes to the rehearsal dinner and spends the whole day with you on your wedding for under 2000! If you want some advice PM ive been planning for over a year and a half now in CT and have seen a lot especially with a good friend of mine getting married right before me as well! 

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I am getting married in Portsmouth, NH, and it is pretty expensive…and there are like NO places that can fit a group of 100 downtown.  So that’s another problem with New England – everything is SMALL.  

 

Hmm.  You said you were thinking of $25K?  The Wentworth by the Sea, in Newcastle, NH (tiny town right next to Portsmouth) requires a minimum of $20K…lol.  I think just for food and drinks.   WHATTTT?  

 

Maybe check out Rhode Island…and I guess Worcester if you want to get married no where near the ocean.  

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m very fortunate to live in a place with a lower standard of living – I lived in metro NY for the longest 10 months of my life, and the move to VA was like a cool drink of water. My life here costs half what it did there. Of course, the trade off is having fewer resources sometimes. Wedding planning, however, would have driven me crazy up there.

But I’ve noticed that people in very expensive areas are able to find venues that don’t break the bank, they just have to look long and hard and be willing to look off the beaten path. Have you checked out National or CT state parks? They may not have the accommodations that a hotel or resort venue would have, but they should have very decent facilities, and will have the natural beauty you’re looking for. 

I just did a quick search, and this one looks nice.

http://www.ct.gov/dep/cwp/view.asp?a=2716&q=325210&depNav_GID=1650#facilities

Even the ones that only have picnic pavilions can be made workable if you rent a curtained tent for a dressing/preparation area.

Good luck!

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Go UPSTATE Honey… look at the smaller quieter New England States (and stunningly beautiful)… New Hampshire, Vermont and Maine.  Definitely some values to be had, and you can “embrace” the idea of having a bit of an exotic Destination Wedding to boot.

 

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

My venue alone was 8k and we had a 25k budget that we stuck to.  It was difficult and we made some sacrifices, but it was totally worth it.  Good luck to you!

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I lived in very expensive area of the country as well, and I, too, had “sticker shock” when I began planning my wedding.  My original budget essentially ended up being triple what I originally had been given as my budget.

Post # 12
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878 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

If you’re open to going to Mass, I got an ocean front venue that was only 2k to rent for a sunday (3k for sat, less for off season & friday) it’s the elks at bass rocks in gloucester if you’re interested 😉

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2013

FI and I made a list of what was most important to us for our budget. Our guests list and food/drinks were at the top (we are not cutting the guest list and we want good food). We are lucky to be able to plan our 100 person wedding for close to $6,000 and our venue is $2,100 (35% of our budget). The venue includes table and linen rentals, lighting, etc… so most of the decor is taken care of. I’m DIY-ing a few aspects, mainly invitations, centerpieces, and additional decor items. It’s all about what is important to you and your future husband, and if you have budget restrictions, you will have to give up or modify your plans.

Post # 15
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878 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Have you tried going to caterers and asking them about cheap places you could rent? They seem to know the best places, because the pricier venues are caterer exclusive.

You’ve probably looked into this, but sometimes you can find community centers, churches, libraries, town halls, etc. that offer lower prices.

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m not sure if it is within your driving range (don’t know what part of CT you are in), but my venue in the Hudson Valley hits all your checkpoints, if you are okay with a tented reception.  The venue price includes food, drinks, tables, chairs, linens, servers, etc. – you basically only need a florist, photographer, and DJ (they have an all-inclusive package that has these things, but those vendors are not to my taste). 

We are having a Saturday evening wedding for well below your budget, and the place is gorgeous in person (MUCH better than it looks on the dated website).  I found it through another bee, so I wanted to pass the tip along to you. 

This is where I’ll be walking down the aisle 🙂

In the other direction, the venue faces the sun setting over the mountains in the distance.  It is just beautiful.  Let me know if you might be interested, and I will PM you the pricing and what we negotiated. 

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