- K. Mac
- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
My Maid/Matron of Honor and best friend of 15 years has been planning my shower for a few weeks now. This is the first shower she has planned, and I feel very blessed to have such a great gal in my life who is going out of her way to make this a special event for me. Much like me with my wedding planning, this is a learning experience for her, as she hasn’t done it before.
She sent out an email to those invited a few weeks ago to let everyone know the date, place, time, etc. The shower is to be held at my parent’s house, as they have plenty of space, and my Mom had offered to help with food. I should mention that my mom has been very easily irritated with Maid/Matron of Honor since she agreed to host the shower at her house. I’m not really sure why, but she becomes very frantic and stressed so easily lately, which only causes stress for those around her and has a bit of a domino effect.
My Maid/Matron of Honor, bless her heart, didn’t realize that when she sent the email out, she had chosen Father’s Day as the date for the shower. My mom realized this, and sent her a very snarky email to the tune of “This OBVIOUSLY isn’t going to work, you should have paid more attention to the date, you can’t expect us to kick K. Mac’s father out of the house for the whole afternoon on FATHER’S DAY!” or something like that. Anyway, Maid/Matron of Honor asked my mother what date she should change it to, Mom suggested June 23, (which happens to be a Saturday). Maid/Matron of Honor sends out a second email appologizing for the misunderstanding, and letting everyone know the new date. Now Mom is even MORE frustrated, i guess because she thinks it should be on a Sunday?
This whole thing is just so stupid. I don’t even care if i have a shower at all, which i’ve expressed, but it’s something that Maid/Matron of Honor really wants to do for me, and i love her for it, but all of this fuss is just so unnecessary! How can something as simple as an effing shower cause this much drama? On one hand, I’m so pissed and irritated at my Mom for being so difficult, (which makes me feel bad, cause she really is awesome for offering her home and about a million other reasons on top of that), and on the other hand, i’m pissed at them BOTH for venting to me about each other – I have enough shit stressing me out, i really don’t want to hear about this too. Is it rude of me to tell them to stop talking to me about this stuff? I feel like if i say something, I might seem ungrateful or rude, but i don’t want to hear another word about it…i honestly feel like this pointless bickering has taken all of the fun out of what should be a happy and carefree event.
Sorry this turned out to be so long. Has anyone else had to deal with this crap? Did you say anything, or just smile and nod like i’ve been doing?