Post # 1
i feel so bad and mad at myself. me and my finacee were supposed to get pictures done today. we have had these plans for weeks. well last monday his meemaw passed away and he made plans to drive down to alabama for the funeral. his mother told us it would be on saturday. so he was going to leave friday get there saturday go to the funeral leave sunday afternoon to be home in time for pictures. i asked him if he wanted me to move the date he said no he will be home in time. so he found out right before he left ( like thursday) that the funeral was changed to sunday. so he told me he would just leave at midnight and be home by 12. well…his family kept him up all night talking and he didn’t go to sleep til 11 (i told him he had to sleep before coming) so he didnt leave til 4 ish am and wont be home til around five…now im upset and angry because i had to cancel the pictures after he said he would be home…this was the only thing for the wedding we have done so far except pick a theme and colors and i just feel heartbroken cause know i have to try and find another day where we are off at the same times again…and now im afraid the pictures wont be as nice cause the snow is coming. our theme is forest and idk if snow covered ground and tress would look as nice…
sincerly, flustered bride
Post # 3
@clockwerk: it’s ok! Anytime you deal with family, especially a death in the family, take however long you think it’s going to take and double it, it’s a shock to the family unit under the best circumstances and everyone has to grieve together. Don’t be too hard on yourself for being upset about rescheduling your pictures….you were looking forward to them and when it’s early in the planning process, everything big and small is so significant.
That being said, put your feelings aside and look at how hard this is for your Fiance, how hard he tried to get home and contemplate how awful it would be to come home to an upset Fiance after everything he’s already been through.
The pictures will come out fine, one way or the other, I promise. Focus on him, take care of him, make some comfort food, light a fire and give that man something worth coming home to, you’ll be his hero for it.
Post # 4
Hey I think you aren’t being brat and shouldn’t be about this shit happens and at this tough time you should just support him anyway you can. YOu can always reschedule the pictures, there nothing that can be rescheduled about her funeral and the important time with spent his family during the difficult time.
In our lives and certainly when you are married shit will happen and things won’t go according to plan. All you can do, is realize what more impotant and be supportive of him and hopefully he does the same.
If you haven’t said anything, I suggest you don’t and you let it go. You seem to be very self aware and from your post and title realize what more important, which is more then I can say about a lot of people.
Post # 5
he knows im sad and hurt but i told him its stupid for me to b mad after everything but its so hard to get him to participate in the wedding planning and i was so excited to do pictures with him and not just be doing the planning on my own and then this it felt like a blow and im so sad about it. im making him dinner tonight and we are going out at midnight for the opening of his game black ops and play with him tonight so im trying not to dwell…
Post # 6
it’s okay to be disappointed – anyone would be. you’re clearly not the worst fiance ever since you feel bad about your feelings! Your pictures will be beautiful no matter when or where you take them! Enjoy your night and stop feeling bad! You guys will get it figured out.