Post # 1
Bees, I’m feeling a bit lonely. I come from a very small family (just my mom!) and FI also just has his parents. we both are bit of “loners”. I’m social but have a hard time making GOOD friends. we just got engaged and i thought this would be an exciting time, but it’s making me sad. None of the friends I have have invited me out to celebrate. our parents haven’t done anything. I’m not complaining, but I am feeling very lonely and isolated. One of my best friends from HS got engaged a few weeks before me. I spent an hour on the phone with her (I was one of the first people she told). All I’ve had from her is 2 texts. since we don’t have a lot of ppl in out lives, we want to just have a small ceremony with us and our parents. so on my side, my mom and her bf. I just found out this morning they just broke up so I am going to have one person supporting me on my big day! I guess I just see everyone around me having fancy engagement parties and big family events, and it’s just making me feel very alone 🙁
Post # 2
Why couldn’t you invite your best friend from HS? Or other friends? I only ask because you are saying you’re lonely, but it sounds like you do still have friends…
Post # 3
I’m actually fine with a super small wedding. If we could do it just the 2 of us without parents being upset we would!! I think it’s more that no one has extended any sort of “congrats” outside of a fb posting. im ecstatic to be marrying my honey (I’m a “ryansgirl” too!). the last few years have been a huge transition with my family ( a lot of deaths in a five year span) so maybe I’m still adjusting to the loneliness my mom and I are feeling on a family level. And I won’t lie, it hurts that not one person has done anything to celebrate this time with me. I know this feeling will pass. I just need to focus on marrying the love of my life!
Post # 4
Yeah, I understand what you’re saying. It’s such an important and happy time in your lives, so it would just be nice to know that others feel the same and are happy for you. Congratulations 🙂
Post # 5
yogahhh: i think you need to be more active less passive. why can’t you say to your parents ‘fi and i would love to all meet for dinner at x to celebrate with you’ and see what happens?
and why can’t you call your friend and say ‘i haven’t seen you since the engagement, let’s get manicures and talk wedding stuff on sat’ (or whatever you want to do – maybe a double date with your fis?)
Post # 6
yogahhh: I hear you. I’m in a very similar situation. We are doing a very small wedding with just our parents (and FIs brother and sister) as well. I honestly have no desire for showers or bachellorette parties because there would only be like 2 people that I could invite. FI has lots of friends, but I just moved to this state a couple years ago and I pretty much only see my 3 coworkers during the day and they’re my only friends. I don’t really have any advice for you other than if you want to celebrate, have your own event/dinner/whatever.
Post # 7
I’m a bit of a social hermit, so I get what you’re saying. If you’re feeling isolated, there’s nothing wrong with planning things to do with your friends. Sometimes you just have to put yourself out there to broaden and maintain the social network.