(Closed) Feeling lost about myself

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1315 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Yeah, I think I know where you’re at. I’m pretty sure I’ve been there. Blogs and wedding sites can be dodgy places if you’re prone to a bit of inferiority.

I did enjoy writing as a teen tho, (terrible rubbish it was too), so I’m starting a creative writing course this autumn, to see if there’s anything there, or I just like the sound of my own voice!

Is there anything you were into as a kid that might be worth exploring now?

And have you a spiritual factor to your life? Often that can be where feelings of emptiness or lack of direction stem from. Best of luck.

You’re doing ok, you know.

Post # 4
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482 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I definitely have “a day” now and again where I feel the exact same way.  You have to try to look at the positive side of things- you and only you have the ability to change your circumstance.  You already seem to have a strong support and safety net in your FI.  Sometimes it’s the small things that make major changes.  There HAS to be SOMETHING that you enjoy in life!  Cooking, organizing, ANYTHING!  I enjoy some of the most mundane things in life, my FI likes to joke that I’m a 45 year old woman trapped in a 24 year old’s body.  Find that one thing that you like… and run with it.

I hope you find what you’re looking for ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 5
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1523 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I don’t know if it helps, but I am going through the same type of things! I think everyone goes through periods of time where they are just trying to figure out what they want in life. I am not sure that most people ever figure out “what they want to be when they grow up” I would try to find things that interest you and make you happy. Maybe try different things like taking a cooking class or a pottery class after the wedding?

Career wise I do feel like I am spinning my wheels. I am trying to find a better job so I can start thinking about some type of graduate program (no clue what yet).

For the weight issue. Really don’t let it bother you. Your FI thinks you are beautiful as you are. I have spent a lot of my engagement fretting over my weight and this article on the practical wedding blog really helped my perspective and I am a lot calmer about my weight for the wedding now.

http://apracticalwedding.com/2010/07/a-way-to-weigh-what-you-weigh-when-you-wed/#more-3985

Hang in there! I really do understand how hard the things you are going through are.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I’ve been “here” before, somewhat currently.

I wish I could figure out “what I want to be when I grow up” really hits home with me.  I’m not in my dream job but then I think what would be my dream job?  Sure there are lots of things I think would be cool.  I could go back to school but what for?  And even then, I feel like I have other responsibilities besides going back to school.

We go through phases of eating healthy and not eating that great and currently we are not eating great and eating out more often than normal.  A couple of months ago, we were cooking 3 meals a day whereas now, it’s “Where do you want to go?” I’m pissed that I’m going to have to go buy new clothes because I’ve gained some weight since getting married and while I’m not as heavy as I was I just don’t feel comfortable wearing what I have in the past. 

With your wedding approaching I wouldn’t try to change too much so it doesn’t become overwhelming.  Maybe go walking during lunch to get out or go walking after work.  Not only are you getting some excercise, I find that it relieves stress and takes your mind off things. 

Post # 8
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756 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I know how you feel as well.  I’ve battled with my weight all my life. I know exactly what I want to do with my life, but I can’t do it because I have no professional experience doing it (and because I have no experience, no one will hire me, etc.).  I lost my job recently (a job I hated) and am feeling like I’ll never be able to get a job I love.  I’m uninsured and scared of something happening to me before I’m able to get new insurance.  I worry that I don’t have as many friends as I should, and I worry often about my FH, who has almost no friends himself and also hates his job.

But there are so many wonderful things about my life. I am so fortunate to have my health, a roof over my head, people who love me, and enough money to live without much worry.  I just try to focus on the good things in life and hope that the rest will fall into place.

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