- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2013
New user name due to sensitive nature of post.
Here’s the short version of a long story:
Together for about 9 years.
He proposed in 2010, I was over the moon.
Set date for summer 2012, found a venue, etc, things going well.
He got horribly depressed (mostly due to work pressures and a ridiculous daily commute, but also finding other people’s expectations quite hard and I had become overly clingy).
We postponed/cancelled the planned wedding and ended up deciding to live apart for a while whilst he got his head straight and I became more independent.
A year on, our relationship has continued to strengthen even whilst living apart during the week and we are starting to talk about reorganising our wedding.
Unfortunately, although our friends have continued to support us (both individually and as a couple), my family got pretty upset and angry at him. Rather than supporting me, they felt that he had obligations to them (as well as me) and felt very cheated. I felt let down by them, much more than by my partner (who never meant to hurt me or postpone the wedding, and has continued to support me through our difficult changes).
His family have reacted completely differently – supportive and unjudgementally.
Which leads me to now – we want to be married but he has real issues with my family attending. Currently he says he could have my parents there but not my siblings. Whilst I understand his anger and frustrations, they are my siblings and I can’t imagine them not being at our wedding.
I feel stuck in the middle.
I hope it’ll ease over time, but that can’t be guarenteed.
Any advice?! 🙂