(Closed) feeling more stressed out than ever :(

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
1844 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

  I can understand how you’re feeling! We have less than 3 months and I feel like the stress just keeps mounting.

  I like to do everything myself, too. I think I have this strange fear that if I don’t take part in every aspect of planning that I’ll regret missing out on something. I’ve relaxed a little. Something that helped was that I made a list of everything that needed to be done and then ranked my non-negotiables (the things that I absolutely, positively had to do myself). I did start recruiting some help. It’s been hard to give up that control, but I did choose people that I knew would, for lack of a better term, follow directions. It’s not that I treated them badly or was very strict about things, but they were people who would keep their opinions to themselves or say things in a helpful, not criticizing way.

  I did talk with my Fiance about these things, because I didn’t want him getting upset at me or getting the wrong idea. I told him that I was feeling some stress with planning, I wanted to let him know what was going on, and that I didn’t really have any ideas on how to make it better. Fiance is a really good listener, and we were able to work through some things.

Post # 4
411 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I took a different approach from @keepsmiling19:  — I outsourced immediately so people I figured would do a better job than me. So my sister is in charge of flowers, my mom and her best friend did the cake tastings, etc and etc.

Just figure out what you REALLY care about — in other words, what are people going to talk about later? Your table numbers? Of course not. Your dress/outfit? Yes. Your groomsmen/bridesmaids? Not so much. The flow of events (so they’re not getting totally bogged down in traditional stuff without any chance to hit the bar)? YES!!!

If you focus on the things that you REALLY want to turn out right, suddenly the list gets a lot shorter. The rest just has to happen, somehow, and it’s much easier when you don’t care that much and can get someone else to take care of it. Some plans need a star next to them and others don’t. Just keep that in mind 🙂

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