Post # 1
I thought planning a wedding was going to be a breeze…. it started off fun and happy and exciting and as the time goes on im more stressed now than ever. Obviously money is a huge issue since were paying for half the wedding plus the honeymoon, but i hate the fact that im on such a short fuse with my Fiance all the time, its not fair to him and i know this…i just wanna enjoy our engagment while it lasts and sometimes i feel like im letting this planning take some of those special moments away 🙁 Hes so understanding and is always a happy go lucky kinda guy but some days i feel like just giving up! Its alot to take on and im doing most of the planning myself as i dont really want the help from others…its just how i am i guess. I want things my way and i understand i should be a little more care free and accept ideas, but i know what i want. Lol. Some days i can say to myself i just want this all to be over and to just head off to our honeymoon and never talk about wedding plans again! But, at the same time…i want this to be fun, which it is at times but it does weigh heavy on my shoulders and puts me on edge more than normal….Every single day, every hour of the day, i am thinking about this wedding and i guess im asking you what you did to keep your calm and to focus on what it really is all about? dont get me wrong, i cant wait for my special day…but i just wish i could relax a little & take a step down 🙂
Post # 3
I can understand how you’re feeling! We have less than 3 months and I feel like the stress just keeps mounting.
I like to do everything myself, too. I think I have this strange fear that if I don’t take part in every aspect of planning that I’ll regret missing out on something. I’ve relaxed a little. Something that helped was that I made a list of everything that needed to be done and then ranked my non-negotiables (the things that I absolutely, positively had to do myself). I did start recruiting some help. It’s been hard to give up that control, but I did choose people that I knew would, for lack of a better term, follow directions. It’s not that I treated them badly or was very strict about things, but they were people who would keep their opinions to themselves or say things in a helpful, not criticizing way.
I did talk with my Fiance about these things, because I didn’t want him getting upset at me or getting the wrong idea. I told him that I was feeling some stress with planning, I wanted to let him know what was going on, and that I didn’t really have any ideas on how to make it better. Fiance is a really good listener, and we were able to work through some things.
Post # 4
I took a different approach from @keepsmiling19: — I outsourced immediately so people I figured would do a better job than me. So my sister is in charge of flowers, my mom and her best friend did the cake tastings, etc and etc.
Just figure out what you REALLY care about — in other words, what are people going to talk about later? Your table numbers? Of course not. Your dress/outfit? Yes. Your groomsmen/bridesmaids? Not so much. The flow of events (so they’re not getting totally bogged down in traditional stuff without any chance to hit the bar)? YES!!!
If you focus on the things that you REALLY want to turn out right, suddenly the list gets a lot shorter. The rest just has to happen, somehow, and it’s much easier when you don’t care that much and can get someone else to take care of it. Some plans need a star next to them and others don’t. Just keep that in mind 🙂